Is there a way that aspies can learn to lower their voices?

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People tell me all the time I have a loud voice. Could singing help?

The most effective way for you to deal with having a loud voice is to shut up.

I have moments when my voice gets louder when I am getting nearer to the main point that I am wanting to say.
It doesn't happen as much as it used to. If I spoke loudly all of the time I would consider singing or perhaps amateur theatre. I found it interesting how many many people with A.S. can feel at home on a stage, mainly because they have learned to act to fit in and so they have had a lot of practice. I have had to learn to shut up as well. When I do shut up I quite enjoy it. There's something fascinating about being in a crowd and deciding not say say anything.

What I find really amazing is the loads of otherwise unavoidable trouble that calmly sipping a generous cup of shut the f**k up saves you.

make everyone else wear ear plugs!

I don't think I talk loudly, but I think it's funny that a characteristic common to Aspies is saying things to people or asking them questions that offend.

Many many of the things that come to mind, were I to say them out loud to someone, I assume would probably offend them even though that's not my intention. I learned long ago that I get in less trouble if I just keep my mouth shut for that reason.

Might wanna get your hearing checked.

In my experience the folks who TALK THE LOUDEST are often the same folks who ask others in the room (whom I had no trouble understanding the first time myself) to repeat what they said.

That is funny. People are constantly telling me to speak up and I am constantly telling them to stop yelling.

I generally talk too loud, if there is a way to stop besides constantly thinking about audio levels, I haven't found it.

Practice...people telling you when your voice is too loud, correcting it, try not to get frustrated.

I think I'm better at this than I was as a teenager, but still not perfect. It takes YEARS.

It might have to do with how you hear yourself in your head. I hear myself very loud so I tend to speak softly. If you hear yourself softly you may not realize how loudly you are speaking. I don't realize how softly I speak. Singing can definitely help if you learn good classical technique. You have to learn techniques like decrescendo poco a poco. That will give you the control.

Before my diagnosis I had a habit of talking too loudly, especially when I excited about whatever I was talking about. But after my diagnosis I talk a lot more quietly now. I don't really know why. Maybe because I have less anxiety. When I had a lot more anxiety talking loudly or too much was my way of calming myself. Or maybe I'm deeply mortified by how cringy my "social" behavior was all those years

My brother, on the other hand, has always talked in low, monotone voice and it drives me, my parents and my sister in-law all crazy. My mom says it's because he's shy.