Any aspie women and girls hate their period and pms?

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22 Sep 2018, 12:49 pm

Yes I get very emotional during that time of the month. Cry over basically nothing and get very angry over nothing.
I also have pain that's so bad I can't leave bed for the first 2 days of bleeding, cramping all the way down my legs so walking makes the pain worse therefore I don't understand those who say moving around makes it better. :lol: :roll: Not to mention having to deal with the bleeding itself, I always feel so gross.
One of the worst things about being a woman.



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22 Sep 2018, 3:47 pm

Post-menopause is superb! no periods, no pain, no chance of pregnancy. I love it.


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14 Nov 2018, 7:34 pm

My periods were awful! So much pain and anger and all the blood was just disgusting. I spend many years thinking this was the same with all women. Until I was about 33. Then I started researching things to do and at 34 I had a novasure treatment. This is mainly to stop a lot of flowing but with me it reduced the pain to almost nothing too. And I'm less depressed and angry all the time.

I don't know if this treatment exists in the US. It can not be done if you still want children. And sometimes pain and blood come back after several years. But it's been gone for a few years now for me it really worked. A hysterectomie is pretty aggressive for your body. And it will give you moodswings from entering early menopause if I'm not mistaken. You should look into Novasure.



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15 Nov 2018, 10:36 pm

I really hate PMS, thanks to it this has been my day;
Woke up at 2:00 thanks to nightmares
Horrible back pain all day
Have been in a bad depressive episode
Had a panic attack
Felt really angry, bordering on violent
And I bit myself.


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17 Nov 2018, 3:13 am

Its not my favorite. I mean I certainly do tend to get a bit moody around that time...like it sucks sometimes because maybe I'll get in an argument with my boyfriend and feel like he's just being an as*hole. Then later I realize I'm feeling all pissy because of my period and that's more what it was about than me actually having anything to be mad at my boyfriend for. Also seems I didn't use to get as bad of cramps, but now they can be just horrible sometimes and that will also make me irritable. Because its like 'Look my insides have felt like their squeezing and murdering each other all day so I don't want to deal with anymore s**t.' Also period products are really annoying me lately...I can't wear tampons all the time because they can make things a bit uncomfortable but all the usual pads suck they get all gross feeling and smelly. I am thinking of getting some reuseable pads because I hear due to not having plastic product in them they don't create that gross sweat trap basically are more breathable, plus it would be less waste. I got one of those menstural cups but I haven't been able to successfully use it yet so not sure that would be a viable solution.

But yeah periods are freaking annoying.


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27 Nov 2018, 4:58 pm

I hated my periods. Every month I would get cramps so bad, I would literally be doubled over in pain and would have to go lie down somewhere. It's gotten better since I've been taking the pill, though. I only get a period every three months now, which is a great relief for me.


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30 Nov 2018, 6:33 am

Count me among those who hated periods so much that it was incredibly hard to accept them. Got mine at 11, and my that same summer I was soaking entire pads and struggling to keep clothes from being ruined. I never had particularly bad cramps, but the seven full days of out-of-control blood, and the smell, and the never being quite sure if I could keep clothes clean.... Also horrendous PMDD where the world went black, eventually developed into monthly suicidal ideation. I went on the pill at 14, which helped a little, but I was still anemic for pretty much the next 25 years without a break. And I've never wanted children, so the whole thing seemed disgusting and unfair.

I finally managed to do an end run around my gynecologist who wouldn't offer me anything but pills and contact a specialist surgeon. By that time I was faint with the anemia and having hideous GI symptoms. After the hysterectomy, pathology came back with the report that the entire dang organ was riddled with adenomyosis (like endometriosis growing inside the uterine muscle wall instead of all over the cavity) such that it was more than twice as big as normal and was so riddled with old, dead blood trapped in the muscle that it was PURPLE. Like, the color of a liver, not a uterus.

I'm 18 months out from surgery and so relieved. The recovery was really tough, and my latest ferritin levels are still nowhere near where they ought to be so coming back from that level of anemia will be slow, but it's so much better.

My lesson: we're told so much about being long suffering about periods (especially in families religious enough to call it "the curse") think a lot of women legit don't even know to tell their doctors how bad it can get, because we expect it to be bad and so don't have a baseline for telling apart "healthy but it sucks" from "I think there's something wrong with me".



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20 Dec 2018, 12:55 am

neptunekh wrote:
My mum says because of a lot of anger I have towards myself I should see a therapist. She says a therapist is different from a mental health who prescribes medication and she is getting concerned when I take out my anger at myself on others by snapping and yelling. I don't know what to do about my negative feelings but maybe the therapist will have some ideas in the right direction. I sometimes wish I was a older woman because then I wouldn't get bad pms every month. Do you think women who never have pms and a period due to being older have things easier than younger women who have mental illnesses with bad pms? I have a trans woman friend who asked me because I hate my period she asked me if I wanted to be a man. I said no, I just hate my freaking period. Do any of you ever hate your period and did you get nasty sometimes? I tell trans women compared to me they are real women in the minds because of I have the mind of a little girl.


I hated it until I got the Mirena IUD which took care of both problems (no periods and no PMS). It hasn’t helped my anger at all and I still blow up over stupid s**t but I think that’s my autism and not hormones :)



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17 Jul 2019, 11:34 pm

I don't like having my period, but I can't imagine any girl would like it. I used to be a bit underweight, which stopped me from having my period, and I loved not having to worry about it. But then I gained some weight and it came back and now I have to deal with this annoyance.



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19 Aug 2019, 8:44 pm

In 2011, I had a period that went on the entire month of March. I became anemic almost to the point of needing a transfusion. I went through menopause in 2015 and haven't had any more periods.



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25 Aug 2019, 12:38 pm

I first got my period when I was 12. My mom was happy for me and wanted to celebrate but I was extremely disappointed and sad. I never wanted it. I still don't. It's painful and inconvenient. I also have a hard time with tampons if I try them (the few times I've tried to put them in I felt dizzy and almost fainted, it was weird) and pads are uncomfortable but I don't exactly have a choice.

During pregnancy and breastfeeding I liked that I didn't have periods but the hormone shifts of pregnancy and breastfeeding were also hard for me to deal with.

Basically being an autistic women is a special kind of hell sometimes.


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25 Aug 2019, 6:44 pm

I can't really imagine anyone particularly enjoying their period and PMS.

I can be snippy but I wouldn't say outright nasty. I'm usually too tired or uncomfortable to cause much fuss.


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09 Dec 2019, 1:41 pm

I think my sensory issues get worse while I am PMSing, especially to sound - but also light and tight clothing to some extent. I also am more easily anxious and tend to be depressed...my meds work the rest of the month, but can't quite contend with the hormones I guess.

Any tips for handling sensory issues without being ridiculous? Asking my family to move out or not talk to me for a week each month is my fantasy solution, but not viable. Would it be rude to wear earplugs and sunglasses?


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12 Dec 2019, 8:33 pm

I am often unsure as to whether or not I am PMSing.

This has lead to some humiliating situations, as you can imagine.

I once had a one-night stand with a man. I fell asleep in his bed.

Needless to say, I painted his whole apartment red during the night.



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08 Jan 2020, 4:28 pm

Had some heavy and painful periods during puberty, and thru my teens, and hated it. Then thru most of my adulthood, for some reason my periods were few and far between, which was okay with me. In my mid 40s they started coming more regular again, then closer together, and more days long, with more blood. Each time I had a period it was the same pattern, but worse. This went on for a couple of years. I didn't have med coverage at the time, so nothing got done, but I looked it up online. The info said it was usually NOT cancer, but that one should see a doctor for treatment of whatever was causing it. It had gotten so bad, I was using disposable incontinence undies to keep from bleeding all over the place. I finally managed to qualify for temporary Medicaid in the state I was living in, and got an ultra sound. Very uncomfortable, but necessary. The doc involved wanted to do a D & C procedure in a few days, but I was unable to do so, as I was moving to a neighboring state in a couple of days. The state I was in at the time is not good about providing benefits for unemployed people with health issues unless they are bleeding to death in front of the state benefit staffers. The new state is much better about health coverage for unemployed people with health issues. My parents have a summer home in the new state, and bought a trailer in my stepmom's home town for me to live in, as I was homeless at the time. Once I qualified for govt benefits I was able to pay rent to my parents, and I was able to see a number of docs for all of my health issues. I was eventually found to be disabled--something I already knew, and the new gynocologist checked the med records from the old state. He went ahead with the D&C on Halloween, and a week later I was about to go out and vote in my new town, when he called me. The female bleeding issue that my research said was usually not cancer, was cancer in my case. Had to have all the female parts out in early December that year, and have not had female troubles since then. I am so glad I will never have another period! Can't stand the mess or the discomfort.

Never had kids, but never wanted any, or a husband or boy friend, so I'm fine with not being able to procreate.

Don't know what to offer for those still going thru periods, but as one of the posters mentioned, you can try potassium supplements. It's good for muscle aches, but don't OD on it. Just try low doses at first, and gradually increase it to see if that helps. Also try eating more high potassium foods.

Another thing you can try is to have a hormone test of all your hormone levels. I had one at least 2 decades ago, but it didn't show anything wrong at that time.

In between periods you might also try moderate exercises to get your muscles in better shape. This might reduce the cramping during the few days of the period.

Hope my suggestions help.


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08 Jan 2020, 6:23 pm

I too hate PMS and having a period. Since I've never wanted kids and highly doubt I ever will, I think it would be far simpler just to have all that equipment removed so I wouldn't have to deal with it, or have a risk of cancer or other health issues related to those bits. My periods are very unpredictable. Usually what tips me off is the pain I start getting a day or two before, and then I go "Oh, that's why I've been so irritable and/or overemotional for the past few days," but I do still get caught off guard sometimes. I also apparently have trouble putting a pad in properly and can only sometimes tolerate tampons. I've pretty much given up trying to keep many pairs of non-bloodstained underwear because of these issues, and it's not like anyone else is going to see anyway. Usually I only get what I consider to be a normal amount of pain, not pleasant but not unbearable, but the time before last, it felt like my uterus was trying to leave my body Alien-style, it hurt so bad. I sure hope that was just a one-time thing and not the start of a pattern.


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