Jamesy wrote:
Back in 2017 this girl (who is a dwarf) was flirting with at my local nightclub.
The girls friend then angrily came up too me and said "are you making fun of her"
Do you think her friend was being a bit unfair towards me. Looking back i should have stood up too her.
Uh, no. I think her friend was being *protective* of her. You're Aspie, right? So maybe your speech patterns or the cadence of your voice are just a teeny bit *different* - like your small statured friend was *different*. Which can be hard to read if you're not used to Aspies. Not wrong, just *different*.
And your friend's wingman, which is probably what this gal was, has probably seen people taunt her pal way too many times before - especially in *potential date finding places*. Put that experience cache together with a slightly unusual way of speaking, or gesturing, or tone of voice, and yeah, the protective instincts are going to come out, possibly in force.
Sorry, I'm late to this discussion and way too late to help the actual event, but I'd bet this is what was happening.
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