Report about successes for getting rid of ASD problems

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Alexithymia is a personality construct characterized by the subclinical inability to identify and describe emotions in the self. The core characteristics of alexithymia are marked dysfunction in emotional awareness, social attachment, and interpersonal relating. Furthermore, people with alexithymia have difficulty in distinguishing and appreciating the emotions of others, which is thought to lead to unempathic and ineffective emotional responding. Alexithymia occurs in approximately 10% of the population and can occur with a number of psychiatric conditions.

Alexithymia is not classified as a mental disorder in the fourth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

So by this definition if you have alexithymia then you are unable to describe your emotions or convey your emotions in the properly acceptable manner in today's society.

I feel emotions, lots of emotions and I suspect most Aspies do also. We just are unable to convey these emotions properly. As a result," we might come across as ice cold people.

So if I try and paraphrase what quite an extreme has said:
The brain is able to learn even the emotional part and the proper display of empathy.
Learn to recognize emotions in body language and verbal language.
Train yourself to correctly observing emotions and reflect the proper body language and verbal language appropriately.
Try to read facial expressions of other people as well. Be aware to that you always should have a good mood if doing so. Try a smile and a kind of feeling happy for them if you look into the eyes of other people. The problem why Aspergers don't use eye contact is that we always experienced aggression once we did because looking emotionless in somebodies eyes is recognised by NT people as pure aggression.

There are many ways to interpret the problems experienced by Aspies. It is probably more than a single problem and more than one cause. At the moment I am looking at the problem through the lens of overwhelming stress and trauma.
Peter A. Leine in the book In An Unspoken Voice wrote:
Traumatized individuals generally find themselves, as with Pavlov's transmarginal phase, swinging wildly and unpredictably between being numb and shut down on one hand and being flooded by emotion, including terror and rage, on the other. These bipolar swings are often erratic and capricious. With human post traumatic stress disorder, chronic sufferers tend to gravitate, over time, toward shutdown. This shows up as symptoms of alexithymia (the inability to describe or elaborate feelings due to a deficiency in emotional awareness), depression and somatization.

Empathy is an interesting topic. I gave it some thought and decided there are two forms of empathy. These are "emotional empathy" and "logical empathy".

Many Aspies identify with Mr. Spock on Star Trek. I am a pattern thinker and I view life from math, science and logic. So I can view life from that perspective. "Logical empathy" would be similar to the logic Spock would incorporate.

So let me begin by discussing some of the traits of Aspies.

One of the traits observed in Aspies is that they lack imagination. This observed Aspie characteristic does not strike true. I have a very vivid sense of imagination. I operate on 5 or 6 planes at once and seamlessly move between them. The best that I can make out is that they are referring to social imagination, such as trying to figure out what someone is feeling or thinking. Emotional Empathy

Another trait observed in Aspies is difficulty understanding others’ feelings, difficulty communicating feelings, unaware of others’ thoughts, feelings, desires, intentions or perceptions resulting in inadvertently appearing rude or inconsiderate. Yes, I fit that trait to a tea. Emotional Empathy
I have internally very strong emotions but I cannot sense the emotions of others. PERIOD

But in place of Emotional Empathy I have developed Logical Empathy. So let me give a couple examples of how logical empathy works.

Example #1
Say, I have been working for a company for several years, my performance has been exemplary and I have decided it is time to seek a promotion. This can be very stressful. But I have made the decision and it is time for me to act. But my boss has been away for a couple days and he is only coming in for a couple hours today. So more stress. So when I encounter him, he tells me that he is really busy but he will make a few minutes for me just before he leaves work. I am really stressed and prepare in my mind what I will say. It is very well scripted. [In this scenario, I am focused solely on myself.]

Now looking at this from a pattern thinker mind incorporating logical empathy. I notice that the pattern has changed. My boss who hardly ever is away from work has been missing for several days. And for someone who would always work a full day, coming in for a couple hours is outside his normal routine. So I approach and ask one of my fellow workers about my boss. I say "something is off". My fellow worker responds "His daughter was killed in a freak car accident a couple days ago." Now I imagine being in his shoes, I understand the emotions he is going through and very logically understand this is DEFINITELY NOT the time to request a raise.

Example #2
One of the great American generals in World War II was George Smith Patton, Jr. Patton led U.S. troops into the Mediterranean theater with an invasion of Casablanca during Operation Torch in 1942, and soon established himself as a very effective commander through his rapid rehabilitation of the demoralized U.S. II Corps. He commanded the U.S. Seventh Army during the Allied invasion of Sicily, where he was the first Allied commander to reach Messina.

But in Sicily he became embroiled in controversy after he slapped two shell-shocked soldiers under his command, and was temporarily removed from battlefield command. So even though he was a household name in America at the time, his actions were severely criticized in the media.

Someone at the time used Logical Empathy. They placed themselves in the shoes of the German Generals. These generals made their careers by being extremely competent in battle. They could not conceive that America would demote and sideline Patton, one of the greatest American generals ever, just because he slapped a couple shell shocked soldiers. They would logically conceive that this was merely a ploy by the Americans to misdirect the German battle plans. So the Germans watched Patton like a hawk, his every move. And the Americans then assigned Patton a key role in Operation Fortitude, the Allies' disinformation campaign for Operation Overlord, the invasion of Normandy in June 1944.

I consider myself very empathetic. However, I do make dumb mistakes and misread social cues, which can cause trouble. I feel bad when I do this.

Cant even wrap my head around the question.

Aspergers doesn't bother me on a day to day basis today. Or not in a way that effects me consciously.

It did effect me day to day when I was a school kid. But that was long before I knew what aspergers was.

Of course there may be those like my XH who were convinced it was all an ‘act’ as they cd not conceive of a different processing and display of feelings than theirs

Also other things

But it’ll take forever to talk about misunderstandings and misperceptions as that is the norm

Before I read this I thought it related to an acquaintance told me his Autism was caused during birth and corrected by surgery, chiropractic neck things.

I’m fine, the way I am is how I answered him.

He also told me he was better than him.
Me a level 1 and he was a
O.005.

Actually I stopped listening totally after he said he was better than me.