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IDK and I don't even know how I look, I mean sure I know how I look...I recognize myself in the mirror. But I don't know if I look attractive or not, I suppose my boyfriend thinks I do and people in my family sometimes tell me I am good looking. But I guess I am not even all that sure what that even is...like I see women my age who look more like what people expect an almost 30 year old woman to look like and I don't look like that. Not sure it means I am un-attractive or not per say but I do tend to feel out of place with women my own age. Like if anything I look younger so that has some attractive qualities I suppose but I don't think I have a good side profile of my face, like my chin is not very defined and my cheeks look weird from the side in my opinion. But then of course some family see side profile pictures of me and say it looks good, but I am sitting there thinking, uhh that doesn't look good.

I've also had people tell me I am ugly, one boy at school told me I had a gorilla face and I have had people confuse me for being male(though only when I have my hair shorter). So I have gotten mixed opinions of how I look to other people.

^ I feel the same.
I've been mistaken to be a boy, even with longer hair. I like looking quite androgynous though, so maybe my clothing throws people off sometimes. I look young for my age too (25). EDS contributes to young looking skin. Sometimes my youthful and 'well' looking appearance is not nice, because people don't believe how dreadfully tired I am because I don't look like it (maybe my expression is tired but not otherwise.) I've been told that I look cute, and weird, and beautiful and ugly, all of it.

Ok ladies post pics of yourselves and I'll give you a brutally honest, straightforward opinion... no lies, no butterflies, no smoke... Let's see it.

I look much younger than my age. People have told me that I look nice, but I don't think so.

I've never been told I look off in any kind of way. Then again I also put a lot of daily effort into my physical appearance which could help with that, I look much younger than I am though but that's about it. People tell me i'm pretty and I don't have any problem finding dates but without any makeup or anything I think i'm quite average.

I don't think my friends with aspergers have anything "off" about their appearance either but they're all mildly on the spectrum like me and the aspie men I know are very into exercise and stay active and healthy which can improve how you look I guess. I know what you mean though as i've seen the look you're talking about on people less mildly on the spectrum but i've yet to see it on someone high functioning.

Unfortunately I've been told that I look quite handsome and couldn't be any more normal-looking so when I say to people I'm Autistic they have an even harder time believing me and accepting me as such. Which is beyond frustrating. It's gotten to the point where I need to show them the actual diagnostic report from my psychologist in order to be taken seriously.

I have found no gain whatsoever with this handsome demeanor other than the fact that people accept me as normal in a first impression basis only and don't understand that I have several neurological disabilities. For someone who is classified as a-sexual, being handsome couldn't be any more of a useless trait. Of course, once they listen to me speak, then their minds start to run with questions like, What is this guy's problem?, Why is he so unusual?, Why does he talk endlessly about a single topic? etc etc.

Prejudice still runs deep in NTs and in order for people to accept you as mentally disabled, apparently, NTs think you have to look horribly disfigured as well.

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My eyes have a slightly vacant look and one of them gets a little bit lazy when I'm tired. I looked quite androgynous as a teen.

I look young but have 'aged' in recent years, probably due to stress. I've never had anybody be offensive to me about how I look but I did lose two jobs because people claimed I was looking at them weirdly, which was just me and my autism being our usual selves I'm only twenty one but I look more mid twenties now and I have a awful feeling my hair is going to start turning grey. I don't particularly like my appearence but I try not to pay it too much attention or thought.

I wish I looked as good as many people here do.....

But I like to think I "make up for it" in other ways.

I think as long as someone has a normal face, they have nothing to complain about. I know of those with facial birth defects who would be perfectly happy to have the normal face of those who think they're not attractive enough.