Just got directly invited to a part by a female coworker!

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What kind of party is this? Is it a department outing after work, with a simple meal, a group activity like bowling, and maybe drinks? Or is it a private party at a coworker's home, with drinks, music, and hanging out? (Events during the day fall under the work scope, and usually paid time.)

If it's the former, do not, under any circumstances, view her actions as romantic interest. She was nice enough to invite you and socialize with you; don't abuse the privilege. Plus, department outings fall under the HR scope, and HR always takes the woman's side. If it's the latter, you have a little bit more leeway. But given the black-and-white aspie thinking, I'm sure you're looking for a blanket rule. So I'll give you one: don't react to this woman's invitation any differently than if a male coworker invited you. In other words, show up, bring a dish or a six-pack, fit in the best you can, limit your drinking, and have a fun night.