Feeling like a child trapped in an adult’s body
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I accept and embrace the fact that I am perpetually a preteen. I have about a gajillion guilty pleasures because I still like books, shows, movies etc that are aimed for middle school age.
More than that though I’m still really...dependent on others I guess. Like my parents still do everything for me despite me being a legal adult and I still feel lost and shy whenever I’m forced to do anything by myself. Even if it’s as simple as going to the store or getting a haircut.
That and I think I kinda act like a child too. When I need to be I can be mature and professional, but most of the time I probably act like an eight year old ㅋㅋㅋ (I think my friends have picked up on that. They tend to kinda treat me like one too)
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I'm 34 years old and feel like I'm 11 years old.While I do work and drive,I still don't really get to experience much.Never hanged out anywhere(outside of work).Never have dated. Recently,ever since I give up on the idea of Friendships and relationships,I haven't really been talking with anyone unless I'm spoken or it's strictly about work related stuff.I wasn't fully independent until I was 25.I feel like I'm around 20 years behind emotionally.People tend to treat me like a child,(which is part of the reason why only get along with other Aspie people).My social experience(or lack there of) is of a young child.
I am 63, but still feel like a kid at times. The way some things make me go "Wow!" Feeling that I have yet to mature. It must be one reason why I have been single and alone all my life. No one wants a kid. And when you are 63, you are supposed to be so cool and experienced of which I certainly am not!
I wish I was 4 years old again!
Yes, I can really relate. Ever since my preteens/early teens, I've really never felt my age. When I was in middle and high school, I typically had more in common with kids who were 2-3 years younger than me than with kids my own age. I did manage to find a few friends my own age who just happened to be more on the childish side like I was. I'm almost 27 now and it's hard for me to even believe I'm that old. I don't feel like it at all. I feel like I still depend on other people so much. I still have imaginary friends and play in my imaginary world in my head all the time.
As a kid I felt more adult than other kids- eg i thought their arguments and things they care about were immature and unimportant (like celebrity culture, who likes who, clothes, parties)
As an adult, I feel like a kid surrounded by adults.
V strange
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I would say that this is very much my current state of mind because I am 43 but my maturity feels around 10 or 11 years old. I'm still very much interested in a lot of children's toys like Legos and model trains and such. When I get excited about something I sound like a child with my explosive enthusiasm.
There are quite a few examples like this.
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I just think our thought processes are so complex that it is difficult for us to respond quickly in social situations because we need to think things through and word our responses carefully. So instead of the brilliant stuff that is going on in our heads our mouths spew out something of a mash. Eventually we decide to pass on the gross effort of socializing at all. But we are there for the ones we love, and we want to do good, right?
This is one of the friendliest forums I've ever visited. The fact that many posts have hundreds of reads and only single digit responses could well be interpreted as agreement, honest disinterest, disagreement mercifully omitted, or too many possible responses for the poster to list.
This is an interesting point- that’s why we may be more nuanced and thorough in writing
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I felt older than everyone I went to kindergarten with, and my cousin who was my age. I was homeschooled, so I don't know how I felt after that.
Now I feel like people my age and younger would probably judge me and look down on me for everything I haven't done or been able to do. I feel more like I'm about 18 than 26. Not only for the "milestones" I haven't met, but the childish things I still like to do. Some people have told me I seem innocent. I know I can be naive at times, even if I can't see it until afterwards.
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blooiejagwa,
I am the same. As a kid, I remember reading about things most kids didn't. Education studies say that people don't read to learn things until about fourth grade, but I remember doing that as early as second grade. I studied my favorite breeds of cats and dogs at an early age.
Now, in terms of life experience, I am the "dumb kid in the room," even though I am university educated and have had a stable employment history (only part-time, but I have been working at my current place of employment for nearly 16 1/2 years). I am working hard to catch up. One day, I hope to find a man who accepts me and won't leave me or overprotect me based on my differences.
I really relate to your guilty pleasures idea. While I read adults books too I love a good Young Adult novel, plus comics, TV shows, Star Wars, science toys for kids. I think this is definitiely a good side of being autistic!
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I don't see anything wrong with this at all. If I like comics at 40 who does it hurt? And besides, the whole industry is no longer geared for children, in fact that's a side issue in comics now. Its all geared for adult fans. Marvel wouldn't spend billions on its films if they were for kids. And we are a small percentage of the general population, so we are not driving this on our own. Its a shift in society as a whole that I welcome.
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I agree totally. I also LOOK much younger than I am. We need to push this as the new normal and not something to be ashamed of.
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