My teacher keeps making subtle comments about me

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Seldovia
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10 Oct 2018, 10:58 am

When I'm in class my teacher will say things that suggest he knows im autistic. One time I asked him if, as a chemistry student, I could get chemicals from the school. He replied, "Yes but that requires socializing with the faculty, so for you, impossible."
Then today I didn't have a lab partner, and I asked him if I'm allowed to work alone. He asked me, "Do you enjoy working alone?" I said yes, and he replied "I figured as much."

I never told him I'm autistic, I guess I'm just pretty noticeable.


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10 Oct 2018, 10:59 am

Oh brother.....I'm sorry you have to go through this crap!



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10 Oct 2018, 11:02 am

That's high school for you. Teachers will always be on the lookout for the "odd" students, and will make whatever comments they please about those students' behaviors.



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10 Oct 2018, 11:03 am

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That's high school for you. Teachers will always be on the lookout for the "odd" students, and will make whatever comments they please about those students' behaviors.


Well, university, but yeah


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10 Oct 2018, 11:03 am

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When I'm in class my teacher will say things that suggest he knows im autistic. One time I asked him if, as a chemistry student, I could get chemicals from the school. He replied, "Yes but that requires sociallizing with the faculty, so for you, impossible."
Then today I didn't have a lab partner, and I asked him if I'm allowed to work alone. He asked me, "Do you enjoy working alone?" I said yes, and he replied "I figured as much."

I never told him I'm autistic, I guess I'm just pretty noticable.

Turn the tables on him, and report the SOB. What is he going to do, hit you in school? And that is my "nice" response. You don't want to know my not-so-nice response (going public and ruining his career).


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10 Oct 2018, 11:04 am

Fnord wrote:
That's high school for you. Teachers will always be on the lookout for the "odd" students, and will make whatever comments they please about those students' behaviors.

Try elementary school for me. Two or three teachers did such things to me, and enjoyed it!


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10 Oct 2018, 11:08 am

Seldovia wrote:
Fnord wrote:
That's high school for you. Teachers will always be on the lookout for the "odd" students, and will make whatever comments they please about those students' behaviors.
Well, university, but yeah
Uni? Private or public? I'm guessing "public", since my impression of private colleges is one of greater sophistication. I could be wrong, though.



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10 Oct 2018, 11:10 am

Fnord wrote:
Seldovia wrote:
Fnord wrote:
That's high school for you. Teachers will always be on the lookout for the "odd" students, and will make whatever comments they please about those students' behaviors.
Well, university, but yeah
Uni? Private or public? I'm guessing "public", since my impression of private colleges is one of greater sophistication. I could be wrong, though.


Yes, it is public.


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10 Oct 2018, 4:46 pm

I see some fairly neutral reporting of a situation from OP, and some responses interpreting it negatively.

Just to put it out there..

What if this teacher knows about spectrum traits because he or an immediate family member is on the spectrum?

Perhaps he wants to make a connection :mrgreen: , but isn't allowed or doesn't feel comfortable asking outright.



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11 Oct 2018, 2:21 am

TimS1980 wrote:
I see some fairly neutral reporting of a situation from OP, and some responses interpreting it negatively.

Just to put it out there..

What if this teacher knows about spectrum traits because he or an immediate family member is on the spectrum?

Perhaps he wants to make a connection :mrgreen: , but isn't allowed or doesn't feel comfortable asking outright.


Yes, I should clarify. Hes a very nice teacher, and I don't think hes doing it to pick on me. In fact, he seems slightly on the spectrum to me.


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12 Oct 2018, 11:15 pm

If he's trying to be nice but what he's doing makes you uncomfortable, maybe you could say something along the lines of, while you appreciate what he's doing, you'd also like the opportunity to learn how to deal with the social situations you will eventually have to handle with society. That means learning to do things like deal with classmates and perhaps getting those conversations for chemical use in the most comfortable environment possible (one on one conversation, few outside stimuli, whatever you might need). It acknowledges that you understand he means well but that his approach isn't the best for what you feel you need.



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13 Oct 2018, 4:24 am

You provided a good explanation.

I would use it as sort of “reality testing.” Know that the teacher means no harm.



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13 Oct 2018, 5:53 am

AspieUtah wrote:
Fnord wrote:
That's high school for you. Teachers will always be on the lookout for the "odd" students, and will make whatever comments they please about those students' behaviors.

Try elementary school for me.

That was when I encountered teachers looking for the odd ones too. In junior high and high school, they didn't seem to be on the lookout, they just focused on the subjects, not how we were socially, which was so much better!


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16 Oct 2018, 2:07 am

I might've had some situations like this back in elementary, but I'll admit in terms of college, this is kinda beyond the pale for me. Maybe it's just because I've gotten really good at hiding it over the years, who knows. Also, awesome signature. I freaking love the work of Hunter S. Thompson. He basically served as the inspiration for my writing style if I'm just writing for myself. Plus his books are a really great read and I highly recommend them to anyone who hasn't read them before.


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16 Oct 2018, 5:58 am

Dear God Seldovia I'm so sorry you had to tolerate that awful teacher and the mean-spirited comments towards you!

Perhaps a conversation with the school principal would be in order and to mention that you might/are Autistic and to tell that teacher to lay off?

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