englishguy wrote:
I want to be independent and get away from my family.
If this is what's most important to you, then I'd try to get into whatever Uni' you can.
SaveFerris is quite right, you can't predict the outcome of going to one Uni' over another. The one you want to go to might seem more appealing or have a course that particularly interests you, but could turn out to be where there's some kind of unpredictable consequence, so that it turns out nothing like you imagine now (it could be something as random as meeting one particularly nasty bully). Another place might not be so obviously appealing now, but could be the place where the atmosphere lets you thrive. There really is no way to know; but either way, you get the opportunity for independence that you're looking for.
I ended up going to a different Uni' than I wanted to. I didn't get my degree, but that had nothing to do with the Uni'; I had no idea I was autistic at the time, and I'd have had the problems I did wherever I'd have gone. However, I accidentally stumbled upon an area of the country that I enjoy living in, and I'm still living in the same city now, thirty years later. I still see people who I met back at Uni', they're still good friends and they've supported me through many a crisis in that time. I did things that I never expected that I have the courage to do, like playing in bands and leading outdoor pursuits trips. Would my life have been better if I'd gone to Uni' somewhere else? There's no way to know, but I have no regrets.
As the old saying goes; "don't let perfect be the enemy of good." Making a compromise in one area can open up many possibilities in others, but we all have to do this without being able to perfectly predict the future. You need to decide which is more important to you; gaining your independence while you have the chance, or continuing to be frustrated by your lack of independence until you can get to go to the Uni' that you prefer (which could never come to pass for a variety of reasons, or may simply seem less appealing by the time it comes.)
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