What is THE most hated question that peeps ask you about AS?

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07 Oct 2007, 11:25 am

The route I'm now taking for employment is trough a Belgian federal center that guides me and most importantly, my employers and does the work of creating a viable work environment for me instead of leaving that sizable task to the company I work for.
One of the master rules in our agreement is that both the agency and the company I work for are completely aware that in employment(and life in general) my biggest enemy is boredom and that they need to actively work to keep me from getting bored.

With this the second part of that awareness is that boredom for me is different then for NT people, I can be occupied and busy 18 hours a day for months on end and still be bored out of my mind every second of that period, because the task I'm doing is no challenge, repetitive or completely out of my fields of interests.

I'm fairly lucky to have a rather broad range of fields of interest, but my level of knowledge and expertise in most of them has gotten to at a level only universities and high level labs require or utilize and even though I don't mind to and can do tasks related to those interests, that are far below my skill levels, as part of my job, making them the main scope of my workload still gets me to a state of boredom because there is no challenge in doing things I already know.

At which point I seek challenges on my own and am left with insufficient time to do the tasks related to my work.

So, on subject, because I have these wonderful people of CBO introducing me to new workplaces, at least new employers don't have this "your a retard" look in their face anymore, they already get the needed information before meeting me in person.

Now I hope my social skills will improve sufficiently to get to a point where a social life is viable (social life = virtually non existing at the moment).
Luckily, that same government agency that plays a buffer between me and my employers also gives me training and help in regard to social skills and life.
Most of them are very social people who, because they know what my situation is, are much more forgiving and understanding then society in general. This is imho the single best thing for me, just being able to interact with intelligent, understanding, non-judgmental and loving people from this agency, has removed alot of the fears and stresses I have in social interactions.

Having other people with problems and disabilities (they also help and train people with other kinds of "handicaps" there, even people with chronic back and muscle pains etc) also puts you in an environment like here on wrong planet, where people understand where you are and have been.



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07 Oct 2007, 12:30 pm

mostly asked guestion in skool: are u retartet or something?...how they think i feel when they ask that? :x



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07 Oct 2007, 2:54 pm

The most ignorant reaction to this - ok this isn't a question but you know - was the case with my first ex. We sorta fell out at a point or something some time after break-up, and she was like "It's stupid to think just because you've got something it's going to affect the way you act" or something really illogical like that... :?
Such ignorance!


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07 Oct 2007, 4:09 pm

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lol, I hate it when people giggle and say "so that means you must be like, really smart or something right?" or they ask me to count things really fast or guess the number of things -_-

I just hate how people tend to switch how they talk to me immediately-always slowing down words or using really simple phrases, as if I can't comprehend more than that.


Gee, you should ask them if something is wrong with them! :lol: Yeah, it is funny how they could know you, and recognize you are GREAT with something, and suddenly change after hearing something that really isn't related.



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07 Oct 2007, 8:47 pm

I think they really need to teach kids in school that retarded is not a proper word to throw around, as an insult, or otherwise. You don't call ethnic minorities names that harm them, why is it ok for that display of prejudice to be towards the disabled?

This plays into another issue I have, that they should take the bullies out of public school. They are a harm to others, and the innocent students shouldn't have to have their education ruined by them. Perhaps see that they get home schooling, go to off-campus, or a school for delinquents. We lock up people who are a harm to others in our society. Why is it when a child goes to a school, they have to deal with these inhuman monsters, in order to get an education?


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07 Oct 2007, 9:15 pm

violet_yoshi wrote:
I think they really need to teach kids in school that retarded is not a proper word to throw around, as an insult, or otherwise. You don't call ethnic minorities names that harm them, why is it ok for that display of prejudice to be towards the disabled?


They TRY, but "kids are kids". 8-( There are even sitcoms, like "facts of life" where tuti(sp?) gets the IQ results of everyone in the school and it turns out that the person that does the best IN THE SCHOOL has the lowest IQ, and the one that does the worst has the best. She lets EVERYONE know! The result? The one that did the best figured it was no use, and let everything suffer! The other one was asked by everyone for help, but couldn't do well. Ironically, she was the ONLY one that seemed to see the reality, that the "dumbest" one was pretty smart and that SHE(The "SMARTEST" one), couldn't do the work!

My point is simply that appearances can be deceiving.



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07 Oct 2007, 10:11 pm

Alternative wrote:
If you don't tell anyone, they won't ask the questions.

'Nuff said. :D

Yup.


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08 Oct 2007, 2:53 am

"Are you retarded?"

"Are you autistic?"

"You're autistic?"

"Are you dumb?"

"What kind of mental problems do you have?"

"Oh you're really are dumb, bye." After telling the assholes I have AS. Good way to scare them off.



I have been treated like I am a little kid or something when I was in high school. I can remember being told in high school by my softball team that they are not going to baby sit me when we are watching the softball tournaments. I told them I don't need to be baby sat and I am not a little kid. My softball team was going to another town to play in the tournement and it was for varisty only but the JV was welcome to come too to watch so I came just to cheer them on and some girls didn't like the idea that I was coming.
I remember another time in PE, we were playing basketball and I suck at the sport. I can't seem to get my body to repsond to the moves I want to make and I feel I am stuck in the mud because I am unable to move my body fast. I suck at shooting hoops too and everyone in PE was letting me tyring to make the basket and not stealing it from me and they were telling me "C'mon Beth you can do it" and keeping giving me the ball and telling me to try again like I am some little kid.

I have been given stuff from other kids telling me to do something that is illegal assuming I'd get away with it because of the way I function. They tell me to pull the fire alarm and I say no. So one day, I started telling them "Get someone else to do it" "You do it" and they say they get in trouble if they do and I say to them "So why would you want me to do it" and they said "Because you won't get in trouble" and I say "Yes I will." "No you won't." "How do you know?" "Because you're special." "How?" "You're in the room and you have Mrs. Rogers with you and you get help with all your school work." "So ask another special kid"
Then they stop.
The kids would even try to get me to hit other kids for them and beat them up for them because they didn't want to do it so they try to get me to do it thinking I won't get in trouble.



I have also been told "You seem normal to me" and I always tell them "I am normal." Just because I'm on the spectrum doesn't mean I am another creature. I am still human just like people with Dyslexia are and people with ADD, people with learning disabilities, people with hard of hearingm, etc.

Everytime I tell people "yes" to I have aspergers because they ask, I get the opposite reponse from them because they say they can tell. I always ask how and they say by what I am saying. They say people don't normally talk about something I am talking about and I am straightforward and so honest. All they are doing is just assuming what it is just by seeing what is different about me. What they see different in me what they don't see in other women, they assume it's the AS. My last bf was the only one who actually looked it up and spent hours reading about it but he was the first one to say I don't have it but I convinced him anyway that I don't because I kept saying I feel like I don't have it and I been misdiagnosed. Then his sterotypes about it began. Other aspies on here don't play with kid stuff unless it's technical such as legos, knex, cars, etc. Other aspies don't get anxiety for no reason, aspies are into gadgets and tech stuff, electronics, aspies are good in math. I'm none of those things so therefore I am not AS. He based what people with AS are like just from reading threads on here. My shrink said that's all bullcrap and we're all human and it's just a personality, a trait of their personaltiy and who they are, not the label. Like I like Spokane and Benny & Joon, I like spending my time on the computer and watching Benny & Joon, does that mean other aspies enjoy that too and if you don't enjoy it, you're not aspie? No. It's part of being me. I have asked her how does she know I have AS and she said she is a specialist and she has worked with lot of people on the spectrum and she has even met people like me so that's how she knows. All of us were different, none of us were the same. We all had different leevls of autism. Some were closer to normal than others, some were more severe than others, etc.

How about "Oh you're not a ganster and a rapper so therefore you aren't black even though your skin is."
Or, "Oh you don't wear all those rainbow hippy colors so you can't be gay."

Same thing as telling someone they aren't autistic because they don't have the abilities some autistics have such as Rain Man, Temple Grandin, Simon from Murcery Rising, Gregory from the Innocent, that one guy from Sphere.

Or telling someone they aren't autistic because they can talk to people and share interests.



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08 Oct 2007, 2:57 am

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she said... "so you're almost normal, but not quite?"


Funny. I have gotten from my parents, "You're very close to normal" but yet they say I'm normal.



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08 Oct 2007, 4:51 am

People talking down to me seriously annoys me, especially when they are dumb *censored* *censored *censored*-wits with *censored* for brains. One day, someone is going to do it, and I will turn around and slap them.


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08 Oct 2007, 4:54 am

Da question i hate most is they always question about my speech as it is 2 fast n secondly they say i don't look autistic da other question is wot is AS as if dey have never heard it in they lives in a stupid way.



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11 Oct 2007, 4:19 am

2ukenkerl wrote:
violet_yoshi wrote:
I think they really need to teach kids in school that retarded is not a proper word to throw around, as an insult, or otherwise. You don't call ethnic minorities names that harm them, why is it ok for that display of prejudice to be towards the disabled?


They TRY, but "kids are kids". 8-( There are even sitcoms, like "facts of life" where tuti(sp?) gets the IQ results of everyone in the school and it turns out that the person that does the best IN THE SCHOOL has the lowest IQ, and the one that does the worst has the best. She lets EVERYONE know! The result? The one that did the best figured it was no use, and let everything suffer! The other one was asked by everyone for help, but couldn't do well. Ironically, she was the ONLY one that seemed to see the reality, that the "dumbest" one was pretty smart and that SHE(The "SMARTEST" one), couldn't do the work!

My point is simply that appearances can be deceiving.


I belive I did see an episode of the cartoon Ed Edd and Eddy, which could have been a parody of the episode. For some reason everyone decided that Ed was a genius, and that Edd was dumb. If you're not familiar with the show Edd is very Aspie-like, and smart. Ed is kind of like, the silly buffoon character that's the comic relief in cartoons. Eddy is like a mega-NT, always trying to scam the other kids for money.

The kids are kids stuff, doesn't work when one of those "kids" has enough and brings a big-boy gun to the school.


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11 Oct 2007, 6:25 am

I don't advertise and really don't see a need to go around telling people - except for a parent - the complexities of my psyche. Ya know? Like there are really important issues at hand right now and the less we complicate things with bloody labels and classifications, I feel the better off things will be for everyone. I don't need anyone's sympathy *oh really? You have a disorder? oh poor you!*

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do me a favor...


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11 Oct 2007, 6:38 am

"Is there a cure?"


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11 Oct 2007, 6:44 am

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"Is there a cure?"


*No, and it's contagious!*

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