People moving away from me when I sit?

Page 1 of 1 [ 9 posts ] 

MarryKate
Butterfly
Butterfly

Joined: 29 Oct 2018
Posts: 17

08 Nov 2018, 8:37 am

I’m in college, I recently noticed that people move away from me when I sit. I don’t understand what I did wrong.

People kind of look at me funny too. The same look I got during high school, like I’m a weirdo a freak.

I don’t know if I’m projecting I just want people to like me but I don’t know how



magz
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Jun 2017
Age: 34
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,351
Location: Poland

08 Nov 2018, 8:47 am

Is your hygiene okay?
I knew a guy who genuinely wasn't aware that he stank. He even showered daily but he rarely made any laundry and often left it in his washing machine for way too long.
There may be also lots and lots of other factors an Aspie can be unaware of. Like clothing. Hairstyle. Body hair. Movements, tics. Or simply not reacting the way people expect you to react. Or, if nothing else, this nasty crowd psychology, no one likes you because no one likes you :( Been there :( :(


_________________
Ailurophrenia. Meow.
Giving up my attempts to become a proper human.


Last edited by magz on 08 Nov 2018, 8:51 am, edited 1 time in total.

kraftiekortie
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 4 Feb 2014
Gender: Male
Posts: 57,268
Location: Queens, NYC

08 Nov 2018, 8:49 am

When Magz wrote "ticks," she meant "tics," not the insects.

I used to get that in high school, too.

And I showered daily, and my clothes were almost always clean.



magz
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Jun 2017
Age: 34
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,351
Location: Poland

08 Nov 2018, 8:50 am

Thanks, Kraftie :heart: Corrected :)

I got that in middle-school age, they just didn't accept me being different back then. I was lucky to be able to choose a small, nerdy high school where everyone was different, so it didn't continue later.
I coped with it by spending all my free time reading, not being there mentally.


_________________
Ailurophrenia. Meow.
Giving up my attempts to become a proper human.


Deemar
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker

Joined: 16 Sep 2018
Age: 39
Gender: Male
Posts: 63
Location: Calgary, Alberta

08 Nov 2018, 10:29 am

I was going to ask about hygiene also. I've worked with people I couldn't stand to be in the same room with.



shortfatbalduglyman
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Mar 2017
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,416

08 Nov 2018, 10:02 pm

Sometimes they did that in response to me

But usually they ignored me

As an autistic, sitting alone is not that bad

If you do not want to sit alone, you could wait until just before class and then sit

:mrgreen:



Magna
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Jun 2018
Gender: Male
Posts: 4,034

08 Nov 2018, 10:55 pm

I felt bad for a girl in high school. She had a condition where her body odor was other worldly it was so severe. She would literally stink up the classroom and people didn't hide their disgust. It smelled like B.O., but it was more than that. I forget the name of the condition. I assume you don't have an issue like that or you would know it.

I'm convinced I give off a "vibe" since I can be personable for short periods, polite, etc, but people don't seem to want to want to engage much in regular repeat conversations.

Maybe you give off a "vibe"?


_________________
"There is no love of living without despair of life." - Albert Camus

Max Jerry Horowitz: "P.S. Do not worry about not smiling. My mouth hardly ever smiles. But it does not mean I am not smiling inside my brain."

AQ-43 (32-50 indicates a strong likelihood of Asperger syndrome or autism).
EQ-14 out of 80
Rdos: Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 173 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 39 of 200
You are very likely neurodiverse (Aspie)


shortfatbalduglyman
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Mar 2017
Age: 35
Gender: Male
Posts: 5,416

09 Nov 2018, 3:25 pm

how or why is that a problem?



lylamorris
Butterfly
Butterfly

Joined: 11 Oct 2018
Gender: Female
Posts: 16
Location: Western Australia

21 Nov 2018, 5:11 am

Don't worry if they don't want to sit with you. I understand being alone is difficult but there are two ways.
1) Go and ask them why they are behaving with you like this if someone answered then improve it and you'll become a friend.
2) Another thing if you don't find any answer or they are just teasing you then don't just be smart and do your own work and perform well in your studies or other activities and then they come to you for friendship.
If it is about hygiene then you can improve it, but if not then just learn to be happy in yourself only.