Does anyone else push people away unconsciously?

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I think I kind of build this wall around me. That’s why none of my relationships ever last longer than a month(if I’m lucky)

I push people away, and eventually they give up trying to talk to me.

In a way I want friends and people to like me but then I get exhausted thinking about the effort

can anyone relate?

Yes usually I don't try to make friends or approach someone

Fear of rejection. Waste of effort, and etc cetera

Sometimes I push people away, but consciously

Yes, I used to do this to everyone but didn't realize and couldn't figure out why no one was a friend. Then one day I read Perks of Being a Wallflower and spent at least two hours pondering the quote, "you accept the love you think you deserve." The accept part threw my world for a spin and now I don't think I do this anymore.

Not on purpose, but I think I do.

I'm 99% positive i do, though in my mind, i really can't recall any time that someone else has reached out or showed interested in knowing me. i'm completely baffled watching everyone make friends with each other around me. even though i can't understand, i feel like i must give off "go away" vibes or something. if i've pushed people away, i wouldn't know even know they had been trying to get closer.

Seeing as how I'm always doing everything by myself, I have a feeling that I'm not at all inviting towards other people.

yes consciously and subconsciously