Why I am here.
23 Nov 2018, 1:13 am
For a little bit of background, I AM diagnosed with Aspergers. However, sometimes I am unsure if I actually have it. I'll forget about the diagnoses for long periods of time and feel like I am acting neurotypical or at least like something else, only to fall into the old habits that got me diagnosed with aspergers when I was 5. For example, with social interaction I'll go through phases of being highly energetic and socially outgoing and feel like maybe I do not have aspergers because I socialize just fine, but other times I'll go into a conversation with a lot of people in it and be overwhelmed by all the people talking at once, and have a hard time fathoming how they can come up with things to say on the spot like they do without having to really think about it.
The biggest aspergers trait I have is the special interests. I am obsessed with 80s pop culture and will constantly drop reference after reference to movies and songs from back then because I enjoy the style. People often get annoyed by this, and it is part of a recurring pattern of me getting highly obsessed with things and imposing them on people. I also enjoy math a lot, and am majoring in electrical engineering. Sometimes I'll find myself wanting to tell someone all about the new stuff I know but they will not understand or care and that makes me irritated.
I've theorized that I might also have some kind of narcissistic personality disorder because I do struggle greatly with empathy. I do not actively manipulate or seek to harm, in fact I hate manipulators and espouse telling the truth. However, I see neurotypicals around me acting collectivist and following stupid trends and not getting into anything other than what everyone else is into and find myself thinking that I am superior to them and that they are below me for not thinking as deep or or for themselves as I do, and when I get into disagreements and arguments I often say terrible things but do not care because I was just angry and didn't mean it. I do feel emotions, however I often try to suppress them. People often misunderstand me socially and give me weird looks or try to keep discussions with me brief or not want to talk. I often get slighted by this and react at least in my mind, with anger which could be seen as "narcissistic rage".
Narcissist or not, I truly do feel misunderstood by neurotypicals and that my intelligence and interests often get overlooked and shunned. I'm here to meet others with varied interests that I can have good conversations with. Hopefully the people here will be more understanding and easy to get on with than the neurotypicals I have encountered online and in person.
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23 Nov 2018, 1:26 am
Welcome to our WP planet!
You'll find forums here where you can discuss your interests such as the 80s music and other stuff. Feel free to check them out and I'm sure you'll meet like minded folk to engage with.
I totally get what you're saying about being overwhelmed when too many speak at once, and about people following trends for their own sake rather than be themselves.
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12 Dec 2018, 4:22 pm
The biggest aspergers trait I have is the special interests. I am obsessed with 80s pop culture and will constantly drop reference after reference to movies and songs from back then because I enjoy the style. People often get annoyed by this, and it is part of a recurring pattern of me getting highly obsessed with things and imposing them on people. I also enjoy math a lot, and am majoring in electrical engineering. Sometimes I'll find myself wanting to tell someone all about the new stuff I know but they will not understand or care and that makes me irritated.
I've theorized that I might also have some kind of narcissistic personality disorder because I do struggle greatly with empathy. I do not actively manipulate or seek to harm, in fact I hate manipulators and espouse telling the truth. However, I see neurotypicals around me acting collectivist and following stupid trends and not getting into anything other than what everyone else is into and find myself thinking that I am superior to them and that they are below me for not thinking as deep or or for themselves as I do, and when I get into disagreements and arguments I often say terrible things but do not care because I was just angry and didn't mean it. I do feel emotions, however I often try to suppress them. People often misunderstand me socially and give me weird looks or try to keep discussions with me brief or not want to talk. I often get slighted by this and react at least in my mind, with anger which could be seen as "narcissistic rage".
Narcissist or not, I truly do feel misunderstood by neurotypicals and that my intelligence and interests often get overlooked and shunned. I'm here to meet others with varied interests that I can have good conversations with. Hopefully the people here will be more understanding and easy to get on with than the neurotypicals I have encountered online and in person.
Do you mean "collectivist" with regards to economic issues or social issues??? Do you mean in the context of how one does not view people as individualistically different as individuals and generalises or do you mean in the political context of wanting socialism or syndicalism or democratic socialism, etc...???
13 Dec 2018, 3:33 am
welcome to wrong planet. ppl LOVE putting labels on everything they dont understand, but pretend they do. dont bother with that. they will anyways ^^
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13 Dec 2018, 2:05 pm
Some Aspies grow up to become nonconformist. Here are a few quotes by nonconformist:
Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do. – Rob Siltanen: Apple, "Think Different" campaign
It gives me great pleasure indeed to see the stubbornness of an incorrigible nonconformist warmly acclaimed. - Albert Einstein
Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. - Mark Twain
Our wretched species is so made that those who walk on the well-trodden path always throw stones at those who are showing a new road. - Voltaire
Not all those who wander are lost. - J.R.R. Tolkien
You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life. - Winston Churchill
Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
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16 Dec 2018, 2:48 am
Special interests, otherwise known as "hobbies," aren't always the biggest trait of aspies. Neither is pretentiousness.
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16 Dec 2018, 4:21 am
special interest, aka hyperfocus, can be more complicated than mere hobby ^^
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sanity is a prison. insanity is doom. is there a third option, please?
beware the ire of the patient ones!
and if i walk away, who is gonna stay? i believe to make the world be a better place.
