What do you look for in a girlfriend?

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I want to do a WP role reversal just a bit.
I didn't really grow up around men much, my own father died when I was quite little, so I feel I have zero experience to work off of if I ever want to try to start a relationship. I just want to gather some information in my data base in case I ever try to pursue romance.
So I ask the men of WP, what do you look for in a women? Both off the bat and long term?

I look for a woman to be assertive (not aggressive) yet be feminine.

Kindness.

I'll have to think back a few decades to when I met my wife.



First off, I wasn't really "looking" for a girlfriend, just open to the idea. Now the list:

1. She likes and loves me.
2. She has a positive attitude.
3. She's intelligent, educated, and speaks English.
4. She's good-looking, all the time.

A mutual friend introduced us, and we hit it off right away.

Someone with some amount of understanding and compassion is the most crucial, especially these days when everything else is free and thus loses its value. Unfortunately, I’ve yet to meet one person who thinks men should ever share their own problems. They might preach it, but come time to practice, they’re nowhere to be found.

Attractive and not a prude (obviously).
Kind and sweet.
Intelligent. Not like Isaac Newton intelligent, just a well-rounded intelligence.
Loyal and loving.
Has some mutual interests.
Playful, doesn't act dead-serious all the time.
Submissive to an extent. I can't handle a relationship where I feel like I'm being bossed around. If I want people to tell me what to do I can just talk to my manager at work.
Hard to really quantify, but acts a bit more like "one of the boys" than some creepy hyper-feminine Barbie doll.

In the short term I was mostly wanting a woman to actually give me half a chance & try to make a relationship work with me instead of it being one-sided. In the long term I was wanting someone who's very affectionate & loves spending time with me. I'm highly attracted to dependent & codependent women.

Not to be a jellyfish for sure.

Somebody who is as lost as I am.

Patient, caring, funny, intelligent, (hopefully) athletic, similar diverse taste in music, well-traveled, and adventurous!

I'm going to go against the grain of the other posters and focus on physical traits. She should be pretty, she should be thin, and should smile a lot. Fortunately my girlfriend possesses all three of these traits.

Honestly, I prefer women who's assertive, but can still be gentle when needed. I tend to like those that I suppose you could say are sisterly and are into gaming as well. I can't really say it exactly other than big sister types in a nutshell.