Kitty4670 wrote:
How many things you need in common with a guy? Can eye glasses be something in common with? Can any writing be something in common with? I posted alot, cuz I have no one to talk to.
Since you posted this in the "Love and Dating" column, I am interpreting this question in relationship to love, dating and marriage.
In that viewpoint, I would say that core values are important.
Consider that there are a few topics that can flame threads on a board. It is areas like religion, politics, conservative vs. liberal viewpoint. In topics that are very polarized and the intensity in which a person is entrenched in supporting their viewpoint without compromise, these areas can lead to great discord between couples.
So imagine a couple. He likes to hunt and fish. She doesn't like hunting or fishing but it is O.K. if he goes off on the weekend to hunt or fish. She might even come along and keep him company and make dinner over an open fire. It is not polarized so they are fine together.
Now imagine another couple. He likes to hunt and fish. She is a vegetarian and considers his actions as akin to murder. This will not work. Their core values are exact opposites. There will be problems ahead for this type of couple.
It doesn't mean that all their core values must match, but most need to, otherwise the couple will argue and argue and argue.