Marriage to AS wife
I've read a few posts yet there doesn't seem any I can relate to.
I'm NT man and married to wife of 15 years, she was diagnosed with AS last year.
She's a very good communicator and very in touch with her feelings and emotions. Even can read me better than I can myself.
Yet there's extreme difficulties in our marriage. I tell her things of encouragement yet she doesn't seem to receive it or even forget it in the future.
Just wondering on peoples thoughts...
I'm also NT and have noticed this weird thing about my AS partner.
If someone makes a sarcastic comment towards him, he completely misses it, goes right over his head. But if someone honestly compliments him, THAT he takes as an insult and it upsets him.
Is that what she does? If it is, I don't know what to tell you. I haven't figured that one out yet.
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One of the traits of an Aspie is that they do not understand the use of gestures or sarcasm (may not understand the subtleties of language, such as irony and humor).
So when I was young, I was ridiculed and was called almost every vile name in the book. When people paid me a compliment, many times is was actually a way that they ridiculed me. If they said, "they liked my hairstyle" they were actually making fun of my hair in front of my peers.
So as an older Aspie, I tend to let compliments fly over my head. I pay them no attention because I cannot in many cases tell if they are real compliment or sarcasm.
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I'm NT man and married to wife of 15 years, she was diagnosed with AS last year.
She's a very good communicator and very in touch with her feelings and emotions. Even can read me better than I can myself.
Yet there's extreme difficulties in our marriage. I tell her things of encouragement yet she doesn't seem to receive it or even forget it in the future.
Just wondering on peoples thoughts...
My advice is to move away from this section of the website. Love and dating is the wrong sub forum for advice on extreme relationship difficulties, general autism discussion or the quieter in depth adult discussion forum, or perhaps the womens section might work better.
Does she have depression?
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