Gender stereotypes in your culture
Not me! Married twice, still sporting my maiden name, never changed it.
Shoe activist
As American as you can get - 13th generation American
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A finger in every pie.
I think a lot of women prefer the "ditzy" stereotype because they either don't want to take responsibility for being intelligent and well-informed, or they are afraid that men will find them intimidating and therefore not be attracted to them.
I remember when I was in high school there was a girl in one of my classes who strongly protested when people told her she was smart because she got a high test grade. "No I'm not!" she said in a whiny, high-pitched voice. It was like she was taking their words as an accusation rather than a compliment. I can only guess that she thought that it was somehow bad or dangerous for people to perceive her as intelligent.
American women are stereotyped to be emotional, sociable/extroverted, fashion and shoe-obsessed, sex-hating, sports-hating beings. These stereotypes are most salient to me because I'm more logical, reserved, less fashion conscious, sex-loving, and sports-loving. I don't fit. The sex-loving part is especially challenging because conservatives expect women to hate all aspects of sex (except emotional bonding) whereas liberals expect all women to be victims of sexual harassment or abuse, and neither side EVER seems look at women's sexuality from ANY other angle than those two. They cannot understand or accept that some of us like to visually stare at men naked and thoroughly enjoy the physical aspects of sex. They're scared by it, both conservatives and liberals. It goes against their agendas, and they totally cannot handle it.
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36 yr old female; dx age 29. Level 2 Aspie.
Lol, it looks like the liberals' view is actually quite close to the conservatives' views here, both assuming a woman never wants sex... but why is there so much pressure to look sexy then?
I'm not much into sports because of noise and competition -I enjoy rock climbing, there is partnership and silence or very simple communication. But I can enjoy an evening with a beer and good footbal (EU type) game on screen - typically masculine entertainment.
Beer is not very feminine here, wine is expected to be a woman's drink. But real women drink whatever they please.
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Let's not confuse being normal with being mentally healthy.
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We never had the first name change here.
Changing last name is prevalent, of my friends, even feminists did it.
I never thought of it much...
I adopted my husband's name - double surname would be too long and unpronounceable (famous Polish last names ) and not changing my last name would be to me like not getting completely married.
Officially, before marriage, we signed a declaration about last names for us and our children - the options were: keeping your own, adopting your spouse's or combining both to make double surname. So the law does not make gender difference here, indeed, one of my friends adopted his wife's last name because he liked it more than his own.
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In our American Culture, women are considered weak and men are considered strong so therefore it's unacceptable for men to cry and show their emotions. Male rape is not taken seriously and it's taken as a joke in TV shows and movies, there is no support for men of domestic abuse. Men are seen as being horny creatures and male victims of sexual abuse isn't taken as seriously.
There is lot of misandry and misogyny in our culture and it's very pervasive and normalized. But misandry is more socially acceptable than misogyny. It's okay to generalize men and bad talk about them but it's not okay to do that about women. I say misogyny is pervasive and normalized because reason why why have support for female domestic abuse victims and while we take female rape more seriously and why we shun male pedophiles and not female pedophiles is because it's implying that women are weak and it's acceptable for us to be cute and show our emotions because we are considered weak so hence the double standard with sex. Female pedophilia is totally okay by lot of peoples standards because we are so weak and the male victims must have taken advantage of us because we are so weak if a woman sexually abuses a male minor.
We have come a long ways for women because we have more rights now as women but there is still a conception that we are fragile and weak because of the double standards make that so obvious.
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Son: Diagnosed w/anxiety and ADHD. Also academic delayed.
Daughter: NT, no diagnoses.
There is lot of misandry and misogyny in our culture and it's very pervasive and normalized. But misandry is more socially acceptable than misogyny. It's okay to generalize men and bad talk about them but it's not okay to do that about women. I say misogyny is pervasive and normalized because reason why why have support for female domestic abuse victims and while we take female rape more seriously and why we shun male pedophiles and not female pedophiles is because it's implying that women are weak and it's acceptable for us to be cute and show our emotions because we are considered weak so hence the double standard with sex. Female pedophilia is totally okay by lot of peoples standards because we are so weak and the male victims must have taken advantage of us because we are so weak if a woman sexually abuses a male minor.
We have come a long ways for women because we have more rights now as women but there is still a conception that we are fragile and weak because of the double standards make that so obvious.
I think we have some of these stereotypes here, too, because I was sort of surprised when my husband told me he does not always feel horny and that he can be not in the mood, too.
I bet in more NT relationships that words may have never been said because of possible assumptions about the male masculinity or female attractivity... but we are a couple of freaks comfortable with that kind of communication, so I know.
Do you think American women play weak to seem more attractive?
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