Easier for women too flirt with men

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You could get pepper-sprayed, lose your job, get arrested, or even get beat up by her friends and relatives.

Go ahead.

I'll watch.

Oh come on...you know what I mean.

You're taking me too literally LOL.

I mean doing it in a much more subtle manner than women do on Sadie Hawkins Day.

I've flirted with women all my life. I don't go for the "jugular." I might make conversation. I might compliment them. I once wrote poems to ladies on the subway----and it was well-received (though I didn't get any dates).

I've never been pepper-sprayed, etc. because I smiled at somebody. Because women know I can be trusted.

When I said "pursue," I meant doing the things that men have always done in "courtship."

Yes, I do. You seem to be "looking at the world through rose-colored glasses". I'm looking at the world through ~50 years of experience and observation.No, I'm not. I'm applying real-world behavior to indicate the possible responses that a man can expect from attempting to court women in the workplace (or anywhere else).Sadie Hawkins day is the exception -- it is the one day out of the year that (high-school) women can act with as much stupid aggression as men and get away with it.

The real world is not a high school dance, Kortie.

I've had 50-plus years of experience myself.

I know when to back off, when necessary.

I was making a personal observation based on my own experience: I'd rather pursue. I feel funny being the one pursued.

I'm very much attuned to the "real world." Though I'm a bit more "glass half full" than "glass half empty."

My advice to most Aspie/Autistic----avoid bars at all costs for the purpose of "picking up" women. They are not conducive to success for us Aspie-Autistics. I tried bars for about a year in my early 20s. I knew it was "no dice" right away. I knew I had better find a more conducive milieu for myself in order to succeed.

Stay away from bars AND churches (unless you're already a drunk or a religious person).

You're just too pessimistic. If you have learnt to interpret interest from your "targets" (you must decide who is your "targets" first), then courtship is not in any way dangerous. It's only dangerous if you overdo it and fail to observe how women react.

Because men are not supposed to be mean to women plus men want sex and maybe here's a chance for it.

Are women supposed to act mean to men?

They only act mean when they don't want to be bothered or they're not attracted to who is flirting with them. Men on the other hand like a chance for sex. It doesn't matter if they are not attracted to the woman. Men want to be bothered but in the sexual way. If a woman keeps on flirting with a man and never submits, she gets called a "tease". The only man I ever saw turn a woman down for sex was a gay man. The whole female world flirted with this guy because he was really good looking and nice. He never crossed their boundaries or "reciprocated". He wasn't interested. If these women - no matter how unattractive - flirted with a heterosexual man the way they did with this guy, the hetero would've been really turned on. The gay guy finally came out and that was the end. A lot of tears in the restroom. These women had hopes with this guy. He was a lovely person. The LGBT world can't be ignored. People are out. Not everyone is fair game. People have preferences. Just because we are attracted to a person doesn't mean they are willing or want to reciprocate.

The clearest explanation yet! But that is just one of the reasons. Everybody had their reasons. Some are different.

You give really good advice! Bars, clubs, smoking, loud music, scant dress - all bad for those on the spectrum. Now, this just my opinion, the best place to meet for our people is something surrounding your common interest. If you like to read, go to a book event. Go to museum events, art auctions, etc... Bars and nightclubs are all about sex with strangers - anything can happen and it won't be to your advantage. Stay out of them.

Go where the people are.

Love is where you find it.

Not in my world. If someone said something nice to me, I would be flattered. It's all part of being a Sweet Pea.

Could you imagine if men started to report women to the police for telling them that they have nice biceps?

That's not necessary. If it happens in the workplace, a simple harassment report to HR will stir things up. If it happens in public, the man would be better off to report the woman to the police for "pandering", "soliciting", or "pimping".

That is, assuming that the man doesn't want the woman's attention.