Jealous of the guys at work being able to flirt with women

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They flirt with the female coworkers even the ones who are 50ish flirting with 18-24 old women.

I wish I was good enough to do that or even talk to women

You’re too classy to be a flirt.

Sometimes, flirting can be sleazy.

Flirting is how people
Couple up.

There is a saying "Don't s**t where you eat", flirting with co-workers can backfire IMMENSELY, so I do not recommend doing what they're doing.

What you need to do is approach people in public avenues and build up your skills, confidence is the main thing that women are after, even if you are not a specimen, confidence like I said before is a drug to women, if they see you have a lot of it they will be sold to what you're selling even if you're an uggo or poor.

But a big issue is that aspies tend to not have a quick tongue so it will take us a bit longer to build the necessary skills, but they can still be worked nonetheless. Yet to build up those coquetry skills you have to be comfortable with repeated failures, sooner or later you're going to have to walk through those burning coals and realize rejections don't hurt, this is why it's so important to work on hobbies and workout because your confidence is not placed in women it's placed within yourself, or even in the case of a religious person, it is placed in God.

But of course if your confidence is placed in women you will become afraid of women and they can detect the stench of failure and desperation from a mile away. Only you can decide if you want to shed that stench and work into turning the failure into success.

Also, if you can, get earbuds and listen to music instead of hearing your co-workers flirt, it will make you happier.

I married a woman I worked with once. That didn't go well.
She left me after five years, and that was followed by at least ten years of abject misery.

I've had a few workplace "flirtations" that didn't go well, either.

I think it's called "Being Sociable".YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!!

Really.

Just scroll back through some of the nicer conversations you've had with women on this website, and you'll see what I mean.

Most the people I know know met their partners at work. Half the people at my work have paired off.

Most of the women I work with are in relationships so flirting with them is out of the question for me but I wouldn't even want to in all honesty. My supervisor and her assistants are all older married/divorced women and they don't share common interests with me for the most part. They are also very two-faced and petty. The younger women except for one all have boyfriends or husbands and the one who doesn't have a boyfriend has mentioned she only likes ghetto guys since she's from the ghetto herself. She is also a three time "baby mama".

What I've found that helps me is that if I can psych myself up to get to know a new person.

If I'm thrilled that this person simply exists, and I get to intact with them, they seem to pick up on it and then they start to like me (at least as a human being, if not a romantic interest).

Admittedly I'm not always in the right mood for such interactions, but take it for what it's worth. If you can make others feel good, they will want to be around you.

It's a skill and it takes practice, but I definitely don't think it's impossible.

Good luck!!

Part of knowing how to flirt appropriately is knowing how to send messages through nonverbal cues and subtext. A lot of the "two-faced"-ness is what I've heard called "front stage"/"back stage" behavior; if you think of a play being put on somewhere, people talk about the play being put on "front stage" very differently "back stage" than they do in front of the audience. The pettiness is reasoning by analogy: people use small, visible, past or present things as an indication of something more important that won't be revealed until sometime in the future. In order to flirt with someone without, you know, sexually harassing them, you have to get a feel for the flow of these nonverbal and subtextual currents, because that lets you know who you're talking to and what they expect or are willing to accept.

Unless, you know, other people would describe them as two-faced and petty, in which case ha ha never mind.

Non of them would date me or men like me.
And I’m talking in person. Women don’t talk to me in person or even give me time of day.

Most women - but not all - care more about self-confidence then age.

For this you have to change the way that you are. Nearly nobody likes wimps and most women find them really disgusting. You have to stop making yourself a looser.

Please stop talking about confidence.

It's getting old.

It's more important to hit the mark than it is to act confident you'll hit the mark anyway.

Do you want me to prove to you that confidence is overrated and BS?

Here:




Confidence without competence is f*****g useless.

Confidence in singing without having talent is f*****g useless.

And by the same logic, Confidence in flirting without having the skill is f*****g useless.

Sly won't be able to flirt with confidence alone if he significantly lacks people skills.

/ I declare winning the argument, you can't refute the above. Discussion closed.