Jamesy wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Well, in other areas of life you tend to follow steps and get a result. I.e. you learn the skills to get a job, you learn how interview techniques and you get a job.
Making friends and dating is subject to whims and feelings. It's the wild west out there. To me people learn that the hard way.
Surprised she was not interested given he learnt the rules
Is that a question?
No I'm not surprised, because in dating there are some basic rules, but everything else, the real connection, isn't about ticking boxes, it's about how you feel and work together. He could have done everything "correctly", but he might have a voice that she found irritating.
It can be something as arbitrary as that
I've just lost someone and I don't know why. We get along so well, but I don't know what about me isn't right for him. I thought he was right for me. It seemed good. I dont want to ask him because ut will hurt too much and what us nit right for him nay be perfect for another, so I don't see the point.
You can do all sorts of "correct" things, but at the end of the day it all comes down to personal preference.