Does anyone find conversations tiring?

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Conversations in topics that I find interesting can be enjoyable. People who constantly want to talk including when I'm not in the mood, there is probably going to be a miscommunication between me and people who have a need for constant social interaction sooner or later because we have completely opposite needs.

Social interaction and conversation can be pretty draining in general. In group conversations, I struggle to get a word in between and my mind has trouble finding a pause to jump in. When I perceive there is a pause, I jump in too late and end up cutting into someone else talking.

They can be pretty tiring for reasons people said. I switch off after a while, too. If I try to speak actively and mimic their expressiveness, my face falls asleep after about 20 minutes. And talking with two people is awful. They go back and forth rapidly, while I end up standing there, never hearing the breaks in their speech that they seem to pick up on so easily.

If they drag on or I am very uninterested in the topic of discussion, then yes conversations can get tiring for me. Most of the time this is not the case for me though, and sometimes conversation can be very enjoyable for me.

If they are not about my special interests, pretty much always.

I've learned to pretty much avoid environments which too often gravitate towards this he said, she said, they said, "who said?" conversational behaviors (one of the worst examples).

Most of the time, I politely observe e.g., listen to conversations in which I sometimes feel lost after awhile.

Sometimes, you must adapt if the situation permits...As stated by Seneca, "It's not because things are difficult we dare not venture, its because we do not venture that things are difficult." Clearly, the duration of reclusiveness is proportional to the degree of decay in respect to some skillset. Neurotypicals may not delve into deep duscuzsions readily, and instead prefer to engage in "small talk" whereas the reversal holds true for many on the spectrum. What if a comprimise is made to promote a more balanced exchange....Extremes are always inherently negative...Yes, someone on the spectrum would derive more satisfaction over time if expressing a special interest. We all tend to gravitate towards strengths and interests to feed our voids. But deep down, there exists an empty void within us that is unlocked by overcoming some obstacle. This helps facilitate balance in terms of our identity, which translates to our path in life.

Conversations are generally tiring, unless its about something I have an interest in. Cats, space, science etc. But even then, only for so long. Small talk, I just go throught the routine every day. Feel like a broken record. Can't be arsed with it though. I work in an open office so I need a couple of hours of me time in the evenings... stroking my cat and being close to him is relaxing too. I probably talk to him more than people some days lol. I can literally be ready for home after being out for a short amount of time socialising, before anybody else. Keeping the mask on takes some effort.