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Autism brother.
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26 May 2019, 7:38 pm

So my bro hates clothes he's 26 yrs old we don't make wear anything at home. So my question is do you let you autistic ones be naked in the home? Just for the sake of comfort?



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26 May 2019, 7:59 pm

Is he generally compliant about wearing clothes outside the home? I'm sure you and your family realize that, for one reason or another, you may not always be able to be his primary caregivers. Preparing for different boundaries in different places will help him in the long run.



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26 May 2019, 8:16 pm

He’s a grown man.

It’s ridiculous for him to be naked around others—unless the “other” is a lover.



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26 May 2019, 8:25 pm

I can understand that your family might be trying to avoid another battle and are trying to take his sensory issues into consideration, but I agree with the other comments and think that this is something you all need to start working on.

Maybe just start out with having him wear shorts and a loose tee shirt (with no tag) around the house. You could make him part of the process and have him pick out things he likes that he’d want to wear, so he’d feel less like he was being made to do something he doesn’t want to do.

With my own kid, I’ve found that trying to think of these sorts of things makes all the difference. It’s great that you all are concerned about his comfort. It sounds like he has a lot of support.



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26 May 2019, 9:41 pm

He should at least wear underwear.



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26 May 2019, 11:01 pm

I guess I'm super weird because my attitude is essentially that if it doesn't bother anyone, then there's no issue. If it does bother anyone, then I guess work your way up to wearing certain clothes...underpants, robe, pajamas, etc.



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26 May 2019, 11:23 pm

While we have few problems with clothing outside of the home, my boys and I will frequently strip down to nothing but lightweight shorts as soon as we get home. Sometimes just the sensation of something on thw skin is too much.


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27 May 2019, 3:15 am

Lots of NT people are naturists/nudists and routinely wear nothing at home.


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27 May 2019, 6:45 am

If his family are nudists, that’s another story.

But he still can’t go out of his house naked.



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27 May 2019, 7:22 am

The OP seemed to make it clear the severely autistic brother is the only naked one in the family and basically asked if that was okay or not.

I myself can't stand having clothes on indoors in the summer. But I at least am expected to wear my boxerbriefs.

The thing is though after 26 years it seems rather late to start implementing new procedures.



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27 May 2019, 8:06 am

He never stated how “severe” his autism is.

Based on what he said, the brother seems rather severe, and possibly nonverbal.



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27 May 2019, 8:11 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
He never stated how “severe” his autism is.


If you read his first post to WP he goes into quite a bit of detail.

viewtopic.php?f=3&t=371307&p=8099884#p8099884



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27 May 2019, 8:16 am

EzraS wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
He never stated how “severe” his autism is.


If you read his first post to WP he goes into quite a bit of detail.

viewtopic.php?f=3&t=371307&p=8099884#p8099884


This has to be a troll...

If not, this family needs serious help.



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27 May 2019, 8:27 am

My mistake. I didn’t notice his OTHER post.



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27 May 2019, 8:29 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
EzraS wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
He never stated how “severe” his autism is.


If you read his first post to WP he goes into quite a bit of detail.

viewtopic.php?f=3&t=371307&p=8099884#p8099884


This has to be a troll...

If not, this family needs serious help.


If the OP is a troll , what do you think his agenda is ?


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