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Considering how many circumstances might have killed me, you're not far off base here.

As you get older you realise (and this is unfortunately true) that you have to lower your expectations of other human beings. People are inherently self-centred and range mildly self-centred to completely selfish. When you come across a person who comes across as nice and altruistic it just means they want something material from you or immaterial from the universe.

When you incorporate the reality of the true nature of human beings then you will find your social anxiety about them will vanish.

I'm not inclined to think that believing in the negatives about people will elicit anything positive.

Well, it would at least be realistic. And being realistic can be positive in the long run.

SImply put....it just means nothing to be nervous about...

Cberg have you ever considered going to any of the meetups wrongplanet people have? I would if I had the money.

Feeling isolated is what people with autism suffer from. But if we could meet up together it would be not so bad.

While I have some money & I heard of one or two in my state, I don't really have any time. I get the impression my friends would like to help with some of this but I'm wondering how to respond.

I suppose the only person I'm actually nervous about is me. I'm more trusting towards my friends than myself. I understand that being more realistic about people will alleviate some of the irrational expectations we all have. I also understand that my whimsical approach toward all things social has its' place. My friends are freaking magical, seriously. They managed to communicate with me. Who am I to deny that?

Would rather not have the good or the bad

Than good and bad

You can't just choose the good

The best case scenario is that, whooptie do . Both parties go holding hands skipping off into the sunset



The worst case scenario is that, subject to imagination


Precious lil "friends" have taken my car. Ten miles away and two months later, I found it. While riding a bike

But of course I can't do that anymore


There are plenty of things they can do that I don't have the resources to repair



Paranoid personality disorders


BFF one day and ghosted the next


They are not worth the energy it takes to interact with them


f**k Amy Lee scheel b***h

I'm pretty sure I'm the impossibly crazy, inscrutable, difficult one in this equation. I didn't steal anyone's car or whatever but I'm not an easy person to communicate with. I'm going camping with a bunch of friends tomorrow at least.

Sometimes someone appears decent. Then I find out something about them that is surprising and bad. Mister redelings was homophobic

Sometimes someone changes for the worst

It's a competition that takes constant energy to keep up with

The party with more resources wins


Resources are:. Authority, skill, intelligence, allies, friends, $$$, strength, energy , time

Logic, factual accuracy, legality morality do not impact the outcome



For example if someone tries to take my purse , and they win. They win a purse. And I lose a purse

If I win, nothing happened






f**k mister redelings

As buggered & messy as our situation(s) may seem, even though I'm a savant hacker, despite 250+ days each year on my own, I'm still a people person. I love people in general regardless of knowing so little about how we can get along. I Iove my friends the most simply because they keep managing to do what's necessary to make my life worth living. That doesn't mean life is without disappointment, though people aren't letdowns to me at all. I'm just amazed there's anyone in my life at all & I'm trying drum up low key ways of thanking a few for sticking around. I want to learn how to say all the above, casually & positively. My demeanor on here is too much more formal & isolated than the real me.

Maybe you could throw a party to say thank you to your friends

Though I'm not sure if that's the expressed purpose, I think said party is in the cards at my house as well as in the high desert this weekend. I'm finally renting a house where people can have some space to think about this. I'm trying to worry less & be more patient in general. I'm also a reclusive coder with more ideas than resources.

help...

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When they dump me or drop dead, the rejection hurts because I made the mistake of trusting them

Guard up constantly

f**k mister redelings




There are just too many things that precious lil "people" do that I find triggering (provocative)


Written contract


They don't have to consent

But even if they do whooptie do

I don't mean to put you off your train of thought but I want my thread to be constructive. This is NOT about my contempt for anyone & I don't relate to that.

I want to spend more time with my friends so I'm asking how to send them such a message without being the same old autistic fool.

Last bumped by cberg on 12 Jun 2019, 8:19 pm.