Does being old-fashioned help you with your social skills?

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KikiKitty678
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10 Jun 2019, 9:08 am

Even NT millennials have terrible social skills. I find that living like I'm 40 or 50 has helped me a lot. I do use the Internet a lot, but not enough that it's my entire life, and I watch less TV in a week than many people do in a day. I talk a lot about weekend plans, what I've done and asking what other people have done over a week, work, personal life and goals, and the weather; most young people seem to talk about sports, dating, parties, and TV.

Do any other young Aspies act older than they are and find that it helps with social skills?



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10 Jun 2019, 5:11 pm

I am one of the youngest members of many of the groups I'm in. They don't seem to think I'm strange at all. They consider me intelligent and listen to what I have to say. On the other hand, I have had people younger than me treat me as if I am somehow less than they are.



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10 Jun 2019, 6:30 pm

I don't think being old-fashioned helps with your social skills if you're talking to people who aren't old-fashioned, the same way that speaking Japanese isn't going to help you communicate better with someone who doesn't speak Japanese.

I think being adaptable helps more with social skills, and I think being old-fashioned is kinda the opposite



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11 Jun 2019, 11:57 am

Not IMHO. I don't think people understand my vocabulary, and I'm totally lost regarding most topics familiar to youth.



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11 Jun 2019, 2:20 pm

When I was in my twenties, all my best friends were 10 to 20 years older than me.

In general I think joining groups of people who share one's interests, and where the majority of people are older, is probably a good strategy for young autistic people. There's no good reason to limit oneself to age-"peers".

Being old-fashioned doesn't necessarily improve social skills, but older people are more likely to forgive a lack of social skills in younger people.


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