Introverted social skills

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This is something that came to my mind when talking to my daughter's teacher.
My daughter participates in social skill training - how to join a play, how to talk to new person, how to meet new friends. She is generally accepted in her class but she's very, very introverted.
In our discussion, we came to a conclusion that they teach her wrong skills - the ones she really needs are

1. diplomatically refuse help
2. ask to be left alone without offending anyone

Do you think you could add something to the list of social skills for an introvert?

I would add those two to whatever else is being implemented, rather than get rid of the previous interventions.

I don’t believe in forcing people to socialize. But I do believe in the efficacy of socialization.

3. How to refuse hugs and physical touch or comforting when not wanted.
I know this is similar to #2, but at that age children love to hug others if they are injured or they look sad.

4. How to ask for a quiet time-out location, after activities wherein she's had to be social or interactive.
Also similar to #2, but it requires a designated spot she can go in the classroom to recharge.

- How to diplomatically ask for help rather than suffering in silence.
- How to manage people's expectations about how available you will be via phone/texts/social-media.
- Techniques for slowing a conversation down when you feel you're being rushed.
- That being a good listener is often a more valuable social skill than being a good talker.

If I was a better listener, I'd have gone farther in life.

if i was a better talker i'd have gone farther in life.