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10 Jul 2019, 8:51 am

You do not feel like aliens from another planet abandoned you on earth.

You and most people in the group you identify with
1. Agree your group is a thing
2. Constantly feel the need to say their group does not define them.
3. Do not believe the group they identify with is by definition is flawed or broken even if it is a discriminated against minority.

The group you identify with is not labeled a diagnosable disorder.

There is not a “gold standard” behavioral treatment for your group.

It is not recommended there be a early intervention as possible for your group.

Huge amount of resources are not spent to find said interventions or discovery of your genetics so you can be aborted.

Society does not feel the need to create “inspiration porn” about you.

There might be stereotypes of retarded about your group or savant but not both.

Your group is not used by defense lawyers to reduce the sentence for the crime you committed.

The existence of your group is not blamed on vaccine injury.


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10 Jul 2019, 9:13 am

You May Be Neurotypical If:

• people assume you know what you are talking about on any given subject, and rarely (if ever) ask for proof to back up your claims.

• people tell you that you are interesting and fun to be with.

• strangers are attracted to you.

• strangers want to take 'selfies' with you.

• when you need to return to your parents' home after having been on your own for a while, your parents see it as more of a blessing than a curse.

• you perceive the world as a nice place full of friendly, attentive people.

• your first date was with someone who was actually attracted to you, rather than someone who merely felt sorry for you (e.g., a "Pity Date").


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10 Jul 2019, 9:26 am

You don't anticipate that your old age will be as lonely as your teen years were chaotic and you anticipate that you will have someone to grow old with.



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10 Jul 2019, 9:32 am

You May Be Neurotypical If:

• employers are quick to hire you; you are rarely out of work for more than a week.


• employers hire and promote you over those geeky quants who have only technical skills.

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10 Jul 2019, 9:33 am

You actually put your university education to good use in a field of study that is actually useful.

I read an article ranking my major, English, as the most useless in real life terms. That was a real sock in the gut to read.



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10 Jul 2019, 9:38 am

You get commended on your actual skill, not for your "courage," "bravery," "kindness," or some other empty platitude.

You have an actual skill that is useful to someone.

(These are the NTs with intelligence, not the ignorant, superficial types).

They put their skills to use and give valuable knowledge.



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10 Jul 2019, 9:47 am

You May Be Neurotypical If:

• you and your coworkers agree that you are not the best at what you were hired to do, but your career thrives anyway.

• you see someone has compiled a list of "You May Be..." entries and all you can ask is "Why?"


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10 Jul 2019, 11:01 am

You see a group of your colleagues chatting and you go over to them to join in, without the fear of them accusing you of being nosy or intrusive.

You think autism means Rain Man (unless you know people with autism who are not like Rain Man)


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10 Jul 2019, 1:44 pm

You May Be Neurotypical If:

• if someone of your neurotype can do something well, you will not be punished for being unable to do the same thing just as well.

• If someone touches you non-sexually and non-violently without permission, it may annoy you but will not hinder your ability to function in any way.

• if you are murdered, your murderer will not be given a light sentence because of the stress caused by interacting with you.

• if you are murdered, your murderer will not be let off because your murder was deemed "an act of mercy".

• if you are not feeling well and decide to stay in bed, you will likely be believed and not scolded.

• if you display a strong emotion, you are more likely to receive empathy than for people to dismiss your emotion as "not real" due to your neurotype.

• If you feel stressed daily or near-daily, you can be sure that most of the people you know will understand and not mistake stress for threatening behavior.

• if you have a negative trait such as carelessness or selfishness, it will not be attributed to your neurotype.

• people do not assume that living in the same household with you is inherently "tragic" or "devastating", or that your family, friends and partner will need a support group to deal with living with you.

• people who are like you in the way they think, and experience emotion are not automatically treated as dangerous or broken due to their neurotype.

• people with your neurotype are shown in the Media as being desirable for romantic and familial relationships.

• when prospective parents and others speak of wanting a "healthy child", you know that they mean a child with your neurotype.

• when someone says that someone else seems like you, that is never taken as an insult.

• when you want to avoid an activity that you don’t like, nobody tries to talk you into it or tell you to "just deal with it".

• whether you are asexual or promiscuous, it is never attributed to your neurotype.

• you can leave your house any time you are physically up for it, without having to consider the effects on your neurotype.

• you can share your life with an animal companion without your ability to care for them being called into question due to your neurotype.

• you do not have to avoid certain movies or shows because exposure to them will hinder your ability to function in any way.

• you do not have to disclose your neurotype to explain your behavior, needs, or emotions, because people already think they make sense.

• you do not have to fear being locked up "for your own good".

• you do not have to fear being preyed upon due to your neurotype.

• you do not have to keep silent about your neurotype for fear of losing your job.

• you do not have to worry about potential triggers at social events or prepare a contingency plan for what happens if you are put in a state of being unable to function.

• you do not have to worry that if your house is messy, people will take it as evidence that you should be locked up or have your legal rights taken away.

• you do not have to worry that people are attracted to you due to their perception that your neurotype will make you easier to control.

• you do not have to worry that you neurotype will be used as a reason not to hire you.

• you do not have to worry that you will be fired due to your neurotype causing you to miss work.

• you do not have to worry that your neurotype will be a barrier to having or adopting children or keeping custody of the children you already have.

• you do not have to worry that your neurotype will lead to people disliking you.

• you do not have to worry that your neurotype will make you unable to do household chores.

• you do not need deadline extensions, alternate assignments, or other accommodations due to your neurotype.

• you know your legal protections, your civil rights, or your freedom will not be taken away due to your neurotype.

• you never have to worry that your neurotype will be used to invalidate any argument you make.


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10 Jul 2019, 2:07 pm

ASPartOfMe wrote:
Constantly feel the need to say their group does not define them.


Correction.
Do not feel the need to constantly say your group does not define you.


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10 Jul 2019, 5:32 pm

ASPartOfMe wrote:
ASPartOfMe wrote:
Constantly feel the need to say their group does not define them.


Correction.
Do not feel the need to constantly say your group does not define you.

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:


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10 Jul 2019, 6:05 pm

Your feelings don't get invalidated and people do actually give a s**t if they hurt you unless they are assholes or abusive.


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10 Jul 2019, 6:38 pm

Lone Replicant wrote:
This post is simultaneously extremely funny and sad.


I hear you. :x more sad maybe.



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11 Jul 2019, 4:57 pm

You assume all autistic people are the same, as in "low-functioning".

You've said "You don't look autistic", and completely meant it as a compliment.

You don't get what's with all the negativity about Autism $peaks.

You see something lit up blue in April and don't think twice about it.

You think that if someone is alone they must be lonely, and you must either "save" them from it, or bully them.

You can't understand why any adult would take a doll or a stuffed animal with them when they go on a trip.

You can't understand why any adult would buy themselves a doll or a stuffed animal while on a trip.



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12 Jul 2019, 9:04 am

On the other hand, some people assume that everybody who is alone LOVES it! Just because somebody loves to read and study, or watch their favorite professional sportsperson, doesn't mean they aren't aching to find like-minded people to make friends with. Often, they lack the ability to transport themselves to a favorite activity and are tired of their dependency on others. A retreat into the haven of their books and animals is their only solution to the problem.



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12 Jul 2019, 9:27 am

You May Be Neurotypical If:

• people with a wide diversity of cultural and personality types each identify you as one of their own.

• people think of you as a positive role model only because you never get into trouble.

• you believe everyone is sincerely interested in your sex life and how you lost your virginity.

• you have few (if any) distinctive traits that set you apart from most other people.

• you have never been in a lineup of "the usual suspects" to a crime.

• you have never personally seen the inside of a "Special Education" classroom as a student.


:D


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