Justin101 wrote:
martianprincess wrote:
Actually plenty of women like "nice" men, that's a ridiculous stereotype I wish we'd stop perpetuating.
Also funny how this "animal instinct" thing only ever seems to come out when we're talking about men pursuing women.
Well maybe it's different to varying degrees. All I can say is, in 30 years observation, the vast majority of singles I've known are in the 'nice' category. On the other hand, the amount of women with egotistical , selfish brutes is astounding (and yes they could have usually had nicer options to choose from). Biologically there's reasons for this as explained. The amount of internet articles talking about the phenomenon is huge.
I am a nice person but until I stopped displaying 'nice' attributes I was pretty much always single. Throw in a dash of nastiness, egoism and just plain shallowness and the interest from women was quadrupled. It's sad, and seemingly counterintuitive, until you look at the science behind it.
Of course nice is a subjective value on some level and not everyone will be the same.
Internet articles don't equal quality research.
I'm sure there are some people that some of the traits you're saying are true for. I'm not sure some of it is biological as much as it's sociological. But arguing semantics is silly mostly.
Do you really want a relationship based on "nastiness, egoism, and shallowness?" That seems worse than being single.
One thing I've noticed about long term relationships that are based on such qualities is that they're usually not happy unions. Especially with a marriage context. Seems like more work than it's worth.
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