Autistic people hating successful Autistic people?

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When I was young, my precious lil "parents" used to tell me that "your sister is so smart. Why are you not like that?"

(Correct)


A counselor correctly told me that "you are not your sister"


The high school Dean told me that "comparing children to their sisters is the worst thing you can do to a child"

Nobody said "you are your sister"



"The worst thing" is, subject to imagination


That hyperbole (marked in skills) made me feel like, reverse psychology and devil's advocate



Sometimes jealousy and resentment are natural, involuntary, justified or subconscious. Jealousy is not taboo. Nor should it be .


But please put more emphasis on your life and less emphasis on jealousy



Some people are better at some things than others. Nature versus nurture. Some people have more total skill and potential than others.



"Do your best" is correct. But sometimes insufficient for the situation. For example, if you "do your best", it doesn't prevent you from, getting canned from work or expelled or whatever.


"Don't put all your eggs in one basket" is more like it

Surely it's about how you impart your knowledge that matters as to whether you are seen as a pompous PITA ?

Successful people usually come from a middle or upper middle class background that has enabled them to make the most of their talents to reach their full potential. People that fail to reach their potential do not come from a social class that enables them reach their full potential in life. It is social class that often decides whether someone is successful with in life or not. Higher social class provides more opportunities to achieve full potential regardless if you have Autism or not.

Having Autism puts a person in a significant disadvantage to someone who does not have Autism. Coming from a higher social class is critical to provide the opportunities that an Autistic person needs access to provide the opportunities to reach their full potential in life. Tearing down barriers and easier access to opportunities is critical in providing equal opportunity to all people.

@RainbowBelle , Yes class has a bearing on things . However coming from a middle/upper middle background , with the means it can provide for intellectual stimulation, is not necessarily enough, by itself, to be successful .

I'm a prime example . Middle class upbringing. Private education . Mental health problems started at 14. First saw a pdoc just before I was 17. I am a total failure compared to most here achievements wise, whether coming from a middle class background or not .

I think fnord sounds fine. He is just direct and frank. He doesn't have much empathy because he says things direct. But if you read the words, you realize he is supportive and understanding. He just lacks tact.

Three cheers for any and all successful autistics , beauty ,like success is in the eye of the beholder

My friend, who has Fragile-X syndrome, seems to has been ghosting me ever since I moved in with my boyfriend and got a job. She's the same age as me but has never had a paid job (even though she's been trying hard to find one and attending several interviews), and lives with her parents and hasn't got a boyfriend. I've been trying to keep our friendship going but she seems unfriendly nowadays. I understand that she probably feels insecure seeing people her age with a disability succeeding, but at the same time I want to still be friends with her.