Autistic people hating successful Autistic people?

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Well … the one on the left does kinda resemble me … but I can assure you that we are not related.

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Am I ruining your reputation?

I never encountered it but I could see why. Maybe their success makes you feel like a failure, maybe you had an identity with yourself and they broke it, Maybe you're just a person that gets jealous easily, etc.

I'm usually happy when someone with autism is successful, it gives me the inspiration to do the same! I only don't like it when others compare me to them or if said successful person trivialized my problems or people start idealizing autism itself into something awesome when that's not necessarily true(because you have autism you will be good with technology). Other than that I'm happy for them.

As for Fnord I like his personality. Though he does come off as a little condescending or snarky I think we need that at times. Balances the site out and also teaches that not everyone you meet will beat around the bush with their advice. He also help with people that just need a good slap of reality(at times I need it myself). Sometimes you just need the truth and he's here to give it to you(honestly sometimes I feel we don't have enough of his type of personality around here.)

Anyone could "hate" or like, anyone, for any reason, or no reason

Sometimes nobody knows the reason

Some people are better at doing some things than others

Savant

Splinter skill

I don't think Fnord sounds condescending/ snarky to me.
But I'm the type of person who gets told that I'm condescending.

There is this phenomenon that has to do with being "the other" in society.
Unlike people in a position of privilege whose successes and failures are attributed to their individuality, successes and failures of "others" are often attributed to their category. I think this is at least in part to blame for the resentment some people may feel.

For example:

If an NT loses his job we assume it was something to do with what he did or his particular circumstance. If he wins a Nobel Prize we assume it had to do with him being really smart or hard-working as an individual.

On the other hand if an autistic person loses his job, you know people will assume it's because he is autistic. If he gets a Nobel Prize, you KNOW people will say his autism was what helped him do it.

Part of marginalization is the loss of individual identity in the eyes of society. We get treated as tokens who individually "speak for our group" instead of individual people with individual thoughts and abilities. So while I don't think it is good to hate on successful autistic people, I can understand people's frustration with the situation they end up in. It's a lose-lose deal for everyone involved.