Does drinking and partying make you fulfilled with life?

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06 Oct 2019, 7:22 am

I seem to think if you are someone like me who has hardly gone out to a bar or a noisy nightclub that you are seriously missing out on life by not socialising more with new people in these environments. I don't find some of these places ideal to socialise really, obviously you can't always hear what people are saying and the music is loud and at times its rubbish music from the charts in my opinion. I look at these people taking selfies and getting wasted and think to myself, maybe in a misguided way, that they are happy and content with their lives doing these things and that I'm not because I don't like it. I do like socialising and I love music but not always in these places. I have only gone to a bar or pub with family and not with a group of friends as I have few friends and never over indulged with drink and although I like music I have only been to one concert to see a band I liked back in 2010 with my dad and haven't been to one since for reasons I mentioned because of having few friends and they themselves didn't want to do these things and wouldn't really go to one just on my own because everyone else will be with friends and I'm on my own.



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06 Oct 2019, 10:07 am

I used to go out when I was young. Twice a week to pubs and clubs. It was not fulfilling, I always woke up thinking it was a waste of money and braincells. I just drank to lower my inhibitions to talk to girls.

Whenever I would get a girlfriend it was mostly just from my social circle anyway.

The girls I met from my social circle were not the type to go out to get drunk either. Only a certain type mostly inhabits the clubs and they are usually extrovert/thrill seekers who I don't believe I'm compatible with anyway.

If you don't enjoy being there the other people will be able to read that on your face and body language so its not worth going.
If I was part of a wh40k club and someone was there not enjoying it,I guess I wouldn't make much effort with them.

Pubs are mostly terrible, many of them are going out of business.
I used to go and not really say much,then my friends would either ask why I'm so quiet (which made it worse) or I would force myself to say something which would come out as forced...then I'd be mocked for that! Waste of time really.



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06 Oct 2019, 10:12 am

chris1989 wrote:
Does drinking and partying make you fulfilled with life?
No. If all you can say at the end of your life is, “I drank and partied hard”, then you will have not accomplished much.


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06 Oct 2019, 10:15 am

No not really.


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06 Oct 2019, 10:16 am

It wasn't for me. To me it's just searching for happiness in the external world when you should be searching for it in your own world. Luckily where i live drinking and partying isn't common, but i used to feel that pressure when i was a teenager too.
Also being together with those party goers always made me feel more lonely. And being lonely when you're with people is worse than anything.



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06 Oct 2019, 10:31 am

I was very ill in my teens, my 20s were preoccupied with a breakdown and two failed marriages... so I did my partying in my 30s.
I used to suffer from FOMO... Fear Of Missing Out. I went out 6 nights a week. If I didn't go out I thought the party was going on without me and I was missing something. In truth, every night was the same... it was all an illusion and the social whirl was gradually frying my brain. Drunks and druggies seem interesting when you are also partaking, but in fact they are really boring.


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06 Oct 2019, 11:18 am

No more than reading, watching films, solving puzzles, taking quizzes or posting on forums makes me feel 'fulfilled'. It's just something that I enjoy (although partying is not something I do that often).

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I was very ill in my teens, my 20s were preoccupied with a breakdown and two failed marriages... so I did my partying in my 30s.
I used to suffer from FOMO... Fear Of Missing Out. I went out 6 nights a week. If I didn't go out I thought the party was going on without me and I was missing something. In truth, every night was the same... it was all an illusion and the social whirl was gradually frying my brain. Drunks and druggies seem interesting when you are also partaking, but in fact they are really boring.


I do my best to avoid drunks even when I'm drunk myself. The main purpose of drinking for me is mostly to get the buzz that helps to make the music and general surroundings better and more enjoyable, and also the taste of a good quality ale.



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06 Oct 2019, 11:26 am

No.


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07 Oct 2019, 10:50 am

It seems that way, because of the way the vast majority of (non-religious) NTs do this in their younger years. So basically I do feel like I have missed out on living when I was aged 18-24. A lot of people even coin a vacation full of parties and drinking as "living".
In fact drinking and partying is 'normal' for youngsters in the same way that playing with toys is 'normal' for children. So sadly not drinking and partying as a young adult is the equivalent of not playing with toys as a child. :cry:


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07 Oct 2019, 11:49 am

I've never really drank----and I've partied little.

I don't believe "drinking and partying" makes one "fulfilled with life." This is just a myth perpetuated by those who enjoy "drinking and partying."



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07 Oct 2019, 1:00 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I've never really drank----and I've partied little.

I don't believe "drinking and partying" makes one "fulfilled with life." This is just a myth perpetuated by those who enjoy "drinking and partying."


Which is I'd say about 90% of young people in the western societies, particularly the British culture. That's a huge percentage.


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07 Oct 2019, 7:08 pm

I would say most drink and party to forget about life. Not the same as being fulfilled.


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07 Oct 2019, 7:18 pm

whatever enjoyment you get while your partying will be reversed the next day

alchohol is a crutch



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07 Oct 2019, 7:21 pm

It doesn't feel too good when you spend the next day vomiting.....



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07 Oct 2019, 7:33 pm

if you want to be fulfilled then work on your life instead of trying to trick your brain with alcohol (it only works temporarily)