Why does nobody want to hang out with me?

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only now in the september of my years, am i remotely used to turning anybody remotely mate-material thoroughly off in nothing flat.

We're not "avoiding you like the plague" here on WP.

When you get back home, see if you can find an Aspie/autistic adult support group or social group in your local area.

I had no friends as a child. But I was able to make quite a few friends in my twenties and early thirties.

One of the most important things I did was to develop a concept of friendship that worked with, rather than against, the very same aspects of my personality that most people were turned off by.

For example, I have the stereotypical HFA tendency to monologue about my special interests. So, I decided that a friend must be a person who can actually enjoy listening to me (at least sometimes), and who, in turn, also has things to say that I find interesting. Thus, for me, shared interests -- and a shared enjoyment of in-depth discussion about the shared interests -- are a sine qua non of friendship.

There's more to friendship than just that, of course, but, for me, that's where friendship starts.

Hence, for me, the main key to making friends was to look for people who shared my interests and enjoyed discussing them.

I started by making friends with people who would appreciate it. Like people in care homes, homeless, old, lonely people, people with mental health issues. Any sort of outsider. You can meet these people by volunteering in a charity shop, food bank or care home for example, if you have the time. They will appreciate you and it will boost your self esteem and also give you socialisation practice.