I think my girlfriend might be pregnant

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RetroGamer87
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28 Dec 2019, 11:48 pm

8O I'm terrified!! I can't raise a child! I am a child! I'm like an overgrown manchild who barely functions as an adult.

What if we don't have enough money?

How can I tell my family? We're not even married!


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28 Dec 2019, 11:58 pm

Why do you think that? I mean did you use a condom and it broke....did you try to do the pull out method and not get out in time? Did she take a pregnancy test and get tested positive? And was there ever any discussion of what to do in the event of this, like she wants to keep the baby if it happens or would want to terminate?

I know there is the morning after pill, so if you guys are worried that could be an option.

Those are valid concerns you have, but why is it you're worried she's pregnant?


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29 Dec 2019, 12:07 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
Did she take a pregnancy test and get tested positive?

Yes


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29 Dec 2019, 2:05 am

So I'm guessing you don't have have a job? Does your GF have a job?

Regardless, it sounds like at least aren't in an ideal position to take care of a kid. Fortunately you have 9 months to get a job and save up as much $ as you can before then. Any job. Even if it's fast food. Unlike teenagers who are still in school, you can work 40+ hours/week!

And, are your parents the kind of people who would disown you if they found out you had premarital sex?



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29 Dec 2019, 3:52 am

this is the best thing that will ever happen to you.

congratulations :D

RetroGamer87 wrote:
I'm like an overgrown manchild who barely functions as an adult.


this is 99% of parents in the beginning


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29 Dec 2019, 7:34 am

Congratulations!



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29 Dec 2019, 7:43 am

It's time to panic.

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29 Dec 2019, 8:45 am

Congrats!

It’ll work out. You’ve got some time to prepare in the coming months. Most people don’t feel fully prepared.

Being married doesn’t matter. Love is what’s important.

Make sure you give your girlfriend a lot of support despite whatever misgivings you currently have. Pregnancy hormones are no joke!



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29 Dec 2019, 9:26 am

The OP has a pretty good job, actually.



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29 Dec 2019, 9:31 am

Do not go to your dad for advice if your dad is Bill Cosby





But seriously I'd get her an appointment with a doc soon to confirm before worrying too much.


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29 Dec 2019, 9:42 am

Kiprobalhato wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
I'm like an overgrown manchild who barely functions as an adult.
this is 99% of parents in the beginning

Yup.
Admitting you're not entirely adult is much better than creating a perfectly adult facade. Trust me. We all grow, we need room for it.
You just solve problems as they appear and manage to go on.
It's gonna be ok.


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29 Dec 2019, 9:52 am

I wish I would have been a father....



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29 Dec 2019, 10:39 am

Do you both want to go through with it?
I wasn’t prepared either when I became a parent at 22, but you do what you gotta do for your kid. I still don’t feel like an adult half the time but parenting is one thing I can do well, at least. There’s hope for you!


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29 Dec 2019, 10:39 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I wish I would have been a father....


I’m sorry. :heart:
Still, it sounds like you’ve had an interesting and full life in other ways.


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29 Dec 2019, 11:00 am

I am so laffing my butt off right now!

I know you don’t understand it right now, but I PROMISE you everything will be fine. I was freaked the freak out my first time, and now I have three of them. The secret to being a father is that there’s not one. Nobody really teaches you how to have sex, right? You can study about sex in school, read it in a book, and maybe even hire a prostitute. But it’s really your body that has to know how to put a baby in there. Reproduction is what we’re built for.

And if you’re built for making the thing, you’re built for raising it. Think of it as a natural bodily function. You do the same things you’d do anyway. All you’re doing is including another person. It will need clean/dry diapers, and WHEN will be obvious. It will need food, which depending on how the mother approaches it may or may not be your concern for a few months. After a few months we added rice to the formula (breastfeeding didn’t work out). Baby food is a good thing, and I learned a few tricks to get mine to feed themselves and keep clean. We’d go out for Mexican with ours, mix up the rice and beans, and it was just like going out on a date like always. Babies are easy, easy, easy. Things CAN go wrong. We’re no strangers to the emergency room! But our youngest is 7, oldest is 12. I think we’re gonna be fine!

I didn’t mention this when it happened, but I’ve about seen it all now. My wife had an early miscarriage this year. That was tough. It was one of those things we didn’t know we wanted another baby until we had one, and then just as quickly it was gone. So now we’re no condoms, no birth control. Nothing has happened yet. We’re prepared that nothing may EVER happen. But we see it as just another part of our life journey together. This is NOT what I signed up for when we got married...and I’m loving every minute of it!

I can’t tell you it’s not scary...it IS. But I can also tell you that once the baby comes, you won’t still feel this way. If you think of yourself as a man child, you may be at an advantage in that you’ll relate better to the needs of the child. Roughhouse with your toddler. Play video games together. Teach them what you do and show them how. Bring them to work for a bit. Feel free to act like a kid yourself. Just be wise enough to set boundaries and don’t let them roll you when they get older. Be firm, fair, and consistent with behavioral problems. Take it one day at a time. You got this!



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29 Dec 2019, 11:41 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
The OP has a pretty good job, actually.
Oh, ok. Phew.