Possible ways to help many autistic people find love?

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Well regardless of the truth in this matter , it is not particularly a positive point of veiw. Am sure there are some older people whom find each other in their later years . But I maybe a idealist .

Being set up by a mutual friend is a completely valid way to meet potential partners, and its great when it works out. But please keep in mind, just like all the other ways people meet, the people for whom it works out are the minority. Most of the time when people are set up on a blind date, they are unlikely to actually end up together. Like always, both parties need to experience mutual attraction and meet the criteria the other is searching for. The odds are that this will not happen with any two randomly selected individuals most of the time. A few years ago, a co-worker set me up on a date with her friend. And while we did enjoy spending time together, neither of us was sexually or romantically attracted to the other.



I feel like that all the time. Every single time I've asked out a girl on a date in my entire life I was rejected. And how am I supposed to not feel like an ugly loser when I've experienced nothing but rejection? The difference is, that as a man, the social expectation is that the burden of doing the asking falls upon me.

But by this point I'm even far beyond that stage. I've been in the stage of my life where meeting women who are single is practically impossible for years. So I no longer even have opportunities to get rejected.

My friend's aunt married her first (and only) husband at 65 , so you never know.

If you happen to really enjoy the game, these requirements are an advantage. They help build a sense of camaraderie, which is one of the foundations (though not the only foundation) of friendship.

Of course, if you don't actually enjoy the game, then it's all pretty pointless.


Luckily some games, such as Forge of Empires, are designed so that if you're a really good strategic thinker, you can stay competitive without spending real money. My boyfriend is a longtime FoE player who has not spent any money on it, but instead relies on strategic thinking and sometimes detailed mathematical analysis. Other players spend money so they don't have to think so hard.


We need game manufacturers who can commit to making web-based games with multiple user interfaces -- a super-fancy whiz-bang interface for those users who actually want that sort of thing, but also a less resource-hungry, less bandwidth-hungry, and more backwards-compatible version for those users who need that. For anyone here with the necessary know-how to market such a game, opportunity knocks....


None of my ideas are intended to work for everyone. The game idea wouldn't work for me, for example, because I'm not a gamer. However, in a bigger and better-organized autistic community, we would have a much wider range of options. The game idea is just one of them.

A Sadie Hawkins club would attract specifically, and only, those women who dislike the expectation that they not do the asking. Yes this is only a minority of women, perhaps a very small minority, but they do exist. Hopefully there would be enough such women in any given large city to make the club feasible.


This is a problem with today's dating scene in general. To counteract this, a Sadie Hawkins club -- like any other kind of singles club -- would need to hold events of kinds that help people get to know each other on a deeper level, in the hope that at least some of the members will look beyond superficialities.


My guess is that a Sadie Hawkins club should probably encourage people to split the bill -- unless there is a very high male-to-female ratio among attendees, in which case the men would probably be asked to pay at least most of the cost, in an attempt to even things out and encourage more women to attend.


Dating in the Western world hasn't always been as superficiality-oriented and status-conscious as it apparently is now. Part of the problem is rising economic inequality. Another part of the problem is today's dating apps. Another part of the problem -- and indeed one of the main reasons why so many people today rely on dating apps -- is the loss of a sense of community.

Small, marginalized groups of people can go along way toward fixing that last problem by building well-organized subcultures.

As for fixing economic inequality, that's a topic to be discussed in PPR, not here.

This idea may have possibilities, at least for some people.

Last edited by Mona Pereth on 04 Apr 2021, 7:51 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Might work for some people. Is it okay if I quote your suggestion on my website?

Yep. Low Internet speeds and old-ish hardware would need to be accommodated.


Games could be structured so that there would be incentives for teams to take on newcomers in certain limited roles. I'm not sure how that work, but someone with enough imagination could probably make it work, somehow. (An example that popped into my head, though probably not the best such possible idea, would be a medieval combat simulation game where the players start out as pages and squires and then eventually become knights.)

Still, the games would not be for everyone, of course. They would be just one avenue that would work well for some people.

I never liked RPGs, MMOs, RTSs, or FPSs.

I mostly like fighting games like Street Fighter and Tekken. And while they can be played online, they don't allow as many social opportunities. They are also relatively niche compared to other genres.

I just had a thought that some of the younger lonely single guys could look into joining the Peace Corps. They could get living accommodations in a poorer country & they might could meet a woman there who would find foreign men exotic & attractive & who would also be wanting to move to another country. The guys could get money to go to college after they leave the Corps & they would also learn various skills & gain experience that could help them get a decent job after. Someone suggested that idea to me YEARS ago & I looked into it a tad. I submitted an app but they rejected me cuz I have various disabilities & no skills An Aspie guy who has some skills & less disabilities would likely have a much better chance of being accepted. Things may be very screwed up rite now thou with the pandemic going on so it might be better to look into joining after things improve a bit more.