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IstominFan
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03 Mar 2020, 11:06 am

CockneyRebel,

I agree with you. I am generally positive about life.



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03 Mar 2020, 11:18 am

B19 wrote:
The "fight" is a cultural one, not a battle lost at conception. However AS people are confronted with NT mindgames from an early age, and are very severely affected by them. Becoming "pretend NTs" is never the answer. Hating being AS - self rejection - isn't the answer either...
...The barrage of invalidation encases people so much that the disempowerment can totally derail lives and hope.

People get stuck in the hopelessness and then become spreaders of it, and we don't really know how to deal with the impacts of that overall in a support forum like this.


Just pulled these bits out because they bear repeating.

We’ve all got enough to contend with without running ourselves and implicitly each other down all the time.

And I don’t like thinking of life as a “fight”... that’s the language of nasty mind-games some NTs play on each other: we need conceptualise it in a healthier way.