blazingstar wrote:
My brother emailed me to let me know that our father passed away yesterday. Although my siblings maintained relationships with him, I have had nothing to do with him for probably 40 years or so.
I have to admit my first thought was "The bastard finally died." I don't need to go into the details, but I am glad I don't have some possible interaction hanging over my head anymore. I knew he was failing and was fearing a last minute request for some kind of reconciliation, which I did not want but would have felt like a jerk denying the last wish of a dying man. Thank God that did not happen.
At the same time, I am feeling sad today. I think it is sadness over the loss of a father, just any father, not him. And also the loss of never having had a family that was like a regular family. I cannot remember a single good interaction with him, or a single thing good about him. That is also sad.
My brother wrote, "this chapter is ended."
Amen.
Lots of mixed feelings. Each is equally valid. I support you in all of it my friend.
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"I'm bad and that's good. I'll never be good and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be than me."
Wreck It Ralph