Men Asking Me About My Past Relationship

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Why do guys do that?

I can only speak for myself, but when I did it it was to see if there were any aspects of a previous relationship that she liked and perhaps missed. Say a previous boyfriend used to give her massages; I could learn to give massages. Little things like that.

Everyone do that.

Basically to check whether you're messed up or not.

They want to know if you're divorced, which would suggest you might have financial trouble. Even if you haven't been married they want to know if you are single and if you've had long relationships or short relationships in the past. That helps them guess whether you have been sexually active and whether you'd be interested in a hookup instead of a longer commitment.

Also a person's strengths and weaknesses in a relationship--whether they can communicate well and resolve differences, or cycle through the same problematic cohabitations.

It helps to know if she is completely over the past relationship or not.  If she hates him with all her heart, mind and soul, it is just as bad as if she still loves him and wishes they could get back together.  Either way, she's still thinking more about her ex than she's thinking about you.

I always thought guys don’t want to hear about women old relationships like on a real date.

good points


i (fortunately) never ended up dating her but i can remember all the times, hanging out with my LO, half of our conversations would revolve around how angry she was at her exes and how awful they were. at the time i was still head over heels with his chick but even then i felt uneasy that she was still obviously thinking of them 24/7

Yes, but hypocrites exist.

I think it's a matter of people don't want to hear long, unrequested monologues on previous relationships, but generally people do have at least a degree of curiosity about how things have gone previously.

We would rather not know about them; but if we do know, then we would also rather know that you aren't obsessed about them, and we would especially like to know if you've murdered them ... or simply want to...

Also, I think that noting how someone accounts for the failure of past relationships may be a factor: could be used as a foreshadowing of how a potential partner will handle problems in future relationships.

No idea.
No one has ever asked about mine.

BTW,
Could you tell us a bit about your past relationships?

A bit of psychopathic/sociopathic spice, in a relationship, could make things "interesting".

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I know your business but I don't know your name...
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She's got what it takes to make ends meet,
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You know she's a little bit dangerous
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You're hiding under a halo, your mouth is alive
Get out of my way! Get out of my sight!
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I know your business but I don't know your name...
Hold on tight, you know she's a little bit dangerous
She's got what it takes to make ends meet,
The eyes of a lover that hit like heat
You know she's a little bit dangerous
Oh just a little bit dangerous...
Hey what's your word? What's your game?
I know your business but I don't know your name...
Hold on tight, you know she's a little bit dangerous
She's got what it takes to make ends meet,
The eyes of a lover that hit like heat
You know she's a little bit dangerous
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I don’t know how a man that I maybe very interested in, I don’t know what he going to say when I tell him that I’m friends with my ex-boyfriend.

I would accept that my lover is friends with her ex-boyfriend—unless they are actually more than “just friends.”

It all really depends on the nature of that relationship.