A life lesson for the active guys here: never chase.
Prolife tip: some women want to be "chased." These women are typically narcissistic and immature.
In almost every case, most women who say they aren't interested aren't interested, and by continuing to pursue them you are going to make yourself look like a creep.
FOB is correct. Don't waste time with women who show no interest.
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In almost every case, most women who say they aren't interested aren't interested, and by continuing to pursue them you are going to make yourself look like a creep.
FOB is correct. Don't waste time with women who show no interest.
I don't think this is necessarily correct for all NT women. Almost all NT couples I know (including my parents) the man had to chase the girl and the girl played hard to get.
At least for NT females when a man approaches them first the general response from the girl is to be neutral (or in the case of my mother and sister show no interest). More times than not the male has to make some effort to win over the girl.
There are cases where a man meets girl and the girl agrees to have a drink and it leads to coffee/dates/sex/relationships but given males get rejected more times than get a positive response I doubt its that common.
Chasing is a bad idea. I learned a long time ago you are better off with a girl who is crazy about you then one you have to chase and if you catch them they expect you to kiss their feet lol and end up trying to control you.
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Yes that's ideal. But for most men we have to do the chasing.
I chased my wife between 1998 and 2003.
Maybe I should split the difference between these viewpoints & just figure on everyone being crazy for reasons unrelated to most others around them, including myself.
Medical experts say not to go near anyone anyway. I feel there might be more good faith to go around someday when we can all visit each other again.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
Aren't you self contradicting?
Maybe you're taking the word 'chasing' too literally I guess ; it's figurative, not like a lion chasing a deer.
Chasing in my context = first move(s).
Sorry, fishman.
To me "chasing" means when the "prey" is on the move, away from "you".
First move = the first approach.
Chasing happens after that.
Too right.
Has anyone else noticed how a beautiful woman isn't that beautiful anymore, now that we have to factor in the possibility of death into the equation?
I don't seem to have any male "Praying Mantis" DNA in me.
In almost every case, most women who say they aren't interested aren't interested, and by continuing to pursue them you are going to make yourself look like a creep.
FOB is correct. Don't waste time with women who show no interest.
I don't think this is necessarily correct for all NT women. Almost all NT couples I know (including my parents) the man had to chase the girl and the girl played hard to get.
At least for NT females when a man approaches them first the general response from the girl is to be neutral (or in the case of my mother and sister show no interest). More times than not the male has to make some effort to win over the girl.
There are cases where a man meets girl and the girl agrees to have a drink and it leads to coffee/dates/sex/relationships but given males get rejected more times than get a positive response I doubt its that common.
No, the vast majority of women who say they are not interested aren't interested.
Men who feel the need to pester and badger women are just going to come across as creeps.
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"If we fail to anticipate the unforeseen or expect the unexpected in a universe of infinite possibilities, we may find ourselves at the mercy of anyone or anything that cannot be programmed, categorized or easily referenced."
-XFG (no longer a moderator)
Men who feel the need to pester and badger women are just going to come across as creeps.
I don't actually dispute that....but...a surprising number of men are married to women whom said no the first time,
Men who feel the need to pester and badger women are just going to come across as creeps.
I don't actually dispute that....but...a surprising number of men are married to women whom said no the first time,
I think we need to understand the distinction between
"I like you but I won't <go to a date / sleep with you / marry you / ...>"
vs
"I'm not interested, leave me alone."
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Let's not confuse being normal with being mentally healthy.
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Men who feel the need to pester and badger women are just going to come across as creeps.
I don't actually dispute that....but...a surprising number of men are married to women whom said no the first time,
I think we need to understand the distinction between
"I like you but I won't <go to a date / sleep with you / marry you / ...>"
vs
"I'm not interested, leave me alone."
I imagine since the #Metoo movement started men are less inclined to pursue but that certainly was not the case in the past.
My culture finds meetoo rarely relatable. In general, women are expected to be assertive and men are expected to respect women, at least in the environments where I live.
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Let's not confuse being normal with being mentally healthy.
<not moderating PPR stuff concerning East Europe>
Men who feel the need to pester and badger women are just going to come across as creeps.
I don't actually dispute that....but...a surprising number of men are married to women whom said no the first time,
I think we need to understand the distinction between
"I like you but I won't <go to a date / sleep with you / marry you / ...>"
vs
"I'm not interested, leave me alone."
I imagine since the #Metoo movement started men are less inclined to pursue but that certainly was not the case in the past.
I imagine much of the MeToo movement was sprung from the men who wouldn't take no for an answer.
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"If we fail to anticipate the unforeseen or expect the unexpected in a universe of infinite possibilities, we may find ourselves at the mercy of anyone or anything that cannot be programmed, categorized or easily referenced."
-XFG (no longer a moderator)
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