YouTuber slammed for ‘rehoming’ adopted autistic son

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YouTuber Myka Stauffer slammed for ‘rehoming’ adopted autistic son Huxley

It's good that he's at least with a family that can properly take care of him now. I haven't ever watched this woman's videos, nor have I even heard of her before, so I can't comment on how her and her family have handled this. I do feel like "rehoming" a young child with apparent reactive attachment disorder, who has also been with you for half of his life, might not be an entirely amazing idea regarding said attachment disorder. If they did consult with medical professionals I would assume that has been considered, though.

I am happy they were able to find a family who can handle his needs. I can't imagine what it would be like if he was their biological son and he had autism. Would they still have put him up for an adoption? They had four other children to care for and I guess he was taking all their attention away from them. That can be very damaging for the child to be neglected because of a special needs sibling getting all their parents attention.

I am also in agreement with RAD, that is a possibility and RAD can also mimic autism. It's just that is so rare that not very many medical professionals know about it but social workers do. A social worker would be the first person to go to when you adopt and your kid has problems. They have programs for kids with it and that means they get sent away to a home where they all live.

Adopt a kid from over seas, from foster care, higher chances of RAD. And families with RAD have given up their RAD child because it was the only way they could get their kid help. They were able to find someone who specialized in it and could work with them but that meant giving up their adoption.

Rehoming is term for pets due to Craigslist not allowing selling of pets. To refer to a child that way is so dehumanizing.

I can’t stand celebrity culture anyway so shallow hopefully the kid will go to a home where he’ll be better looked after.

It’s been a bad week for autism parenting anyway:

https://www.local10.com/news/local/2020 ... iami-dade/

I think if more people gave their kids up for an adoption, less kids would be getting abused and there would be less autistic murders too. But people are too concerned about their rep and other peoples thoughts about them so they keep their child and guess what happens to the child?

These people here were brave for what they did. That boy was lucky.

Latest news is the you tube "star" Stauffer as a result of the widespread backlash, Stauffer’s deals with multiple major brands have been “terminated”.
Stauffer, who also boasts 162,000 followers on Instagram and 700,000 YouTube subscribers, had garnered partnerships with big-name companies like Big Lots, TJ Maxx and Danimals yoghurt.

So.... I actually had watched a lot of videos from this family circa 2017 to 2018, but I had to unsubscribe because she was just such a terrible parent and it was making me tense to watch. First she took all her kids out of school and decided she would home school them herself, in her home schooling videos it was clear that even her NT kids started falling behind in math, and she would talk so unkindly to them when they'd mess up too! She would teach them the wrong names for plants and animals on hikes. One time she even bought a juniper tree calling it a "blueberry tree" and said she was going to feed the berries to her kids. No no no! Those are not edible unless cooked, and even then only some junipers are! Anyway, surprise surprise, she just decided to stop homeschooling abruptly, yanking her kids into and out of their school settings. I also didn't like the way she talked to Huxley. So I unfollowed them. Because I did, I had no idea about how she would duct tape his thumb to his hand to stop him from thumb sucking or about how exploitative she was making most of her videos about him, and yet having most of her family instagram with only her biological kids in them.

The worst part is that he is not "in a new adoptive family," and rehoming him wasn't "Huxley's idea 100%" as she has claimed in the media. They dumped him into the foster care system. He is being fostered right now. So he might get adopted, or he might not. It's unclear. Also, he is non-verbal and 4 years old. How could he have possibly communicated to Myka that he wanted to leave the family?

I don't know her personally, but Myka seems like a classic creepy narcissistic youtuber to me. Her husband seems more caring about the kids and less intense (doesn't really want to vlog as much), but he also let all of this happen without intervening, and so is equally to blame.

I had never heard of a "you tube star" before this.

How does / did she make money?

Thanks for the info, Fern. It's deplorable.
It links to what I wrote in the Rants thread about abusive parents.

My brother adopted my nephew as a single father. I've seen the process of adoption and I know how much bureaucracy is involved. He wasn't an easy child and has a complicated history. We were all screened for a long time after the adoption took place. I can't imagine adopting a child half-heartedly, or giving up on a child if they didn't fit.

Once they are adopted they are your child, as much as your biological children.

Of course I was joking about the refund, but she treated this boy like internet chattel.

The heartlessness is staggering. She even monetized the video where they say that they "rehomed him." So thanks to this story hitting the news hard, they are making a ton of money from the act of abandoning their kid.

I believe he's three years old?

Maybe in 10+ years he'll join WP and find a family with us here.