Worst thing about autism?

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.. It's harder and much trickier to wield the mind and body as a whole with the condition, in more ways than one.

... Autism is like weighted clothing...

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What is the worst thing about having autism?

Hmm, where to start... *Clears throat*...

1. The double standards (NTs aren't expected to understand how we feel but if we don't understand how NTs feel we're the ones that lack empathy)
2. The sensory issues
3. The stigma ("autistics are more likely to kill")
4. The social deficits (humans are social creatures yet we have some deficits with that essential survival skill) and lacking understanding of stuff that humans are supposed to find simple
5. The co-morbids (depression, anxiety, OCD, etc)
6. The way it seems "contagious" (if an autistic grows up among NT siblings, chances are the NT siblings get affected by the autism too and seem more prone to depression or anxiety)
7. The way autism isn't just a social deficit disorder, it comes with a long list of other symptoms too, just to make life even harder for us
8. The way it's a "mystery" (autism is an extremely complex brain dysfunction and it's still not completely known as to how or why people get autism)
9. The way autism is the only disorder/disability in the world that gets separated from the rest of the population (every person in the world is a "normal" human being unless you have an ASD, then you're totally abnormal, aka non-NT)
10. Obsessions that can get out of hand and get you into trouble (like stalking a person if you're the type that gets obsessed with people)
11. Meltdowns - THE WORST SYMPTOM OF ALL!! !
12. The social isolation and lack of friends
13. Statistics that I'm not sure are true or not but still scare me ("autistics are more likely to become homeless", "autistics are more likely to shoot a class of children", "autistics are more likely to die younger", "autistics are more likely to get dementia or cancer", etc etc)... just gives me more reason to hate autism
14. Being undateable or unemployable (not that those apply to me but they do for a lot of autistic people)
15. Giving off different body language to what you intend to and so often being misinterpreted or ridiculed
16. Immaturity
17. The way everything is a symptom of ASD even if it's not
18. The way it seems to be a cluster of mental illness and retardation - even though it generally isn't either of those
19. The odd/rigid thinking (having certain words that I find offensive or triggering but aren't actually supposed to be offensive or triggering to most people), also other thinking styles that nobody (including other autistics) seems to understand when I try to explain
20. Empathy issues - as in having TOO MUCH empathy
21. The embarrassing things it made me do in my life that I can never erase from my memory
22. Every autism case being so different to one another that soon they might as well lump everybody on the spectrum and be done with it, instead of it just being a simple diagnosis where you either have it or you don't, like down's syndrome (yes I know the physical features give that away but now they're saying that autistic people have physical features too so why's it still being unrecognised or misdiagnosed???)
23. How worryingly misunderstood autism is and how society shuns us for being autistic but in the eyes of the law we are capable citizens (some autistics can't get a job because of being autistic but don't qualify for SSI because we're too capable)

I could go on and on. Autism SUCKS and I don't understand how some people can be so proud of having it.

For me, also, the lack of ability to gain independence or live anything resembling a “normal” life, it means it’s extremely unlikely that I will ever have a job I can support myself on and combined with other conditions (primarily periodic severe depression, self-harm and suicidal ideation, and residual health problems from lymphoma) means I’ll probably be stuck living with my parents for either the rest of my life or the rest of their lives, whichever ends first. Both of these contribute a heck of a lot to my depression and mean my life is pretty darn meaningless, basically all I am is an inconvenience at best.

For me right now its the not being able to get a good job and being single and feeling like i dont fit in with my extended family and also the fact that its genetic.

I would like to add on to my original post, the more I think about it...
-People who know about your diagnosis judging you and making assumptions of what you are and aren't capable of without really knowing you or even meeting you first in some cases.
-Feeling like you are obligated to share your diagnosis with other people even if there really isn't a reason to
-People treating you as if your sensory issues aren't valid and that you are just "picky"
-Wanting more than anything to just be treated like everybody else and not as a "burden" or somebody to feel sorry for
-Being underestimated just because of your diagnosis
-Infantilization and feeling like you aren't and will never be seen as an adult

In my opinion, the difficulty connecting with other people and building lasting friendships is the worst thing about being Autistic.

(Oh, would you look at that. I'm a Veteran now!)