Dating Apps - are they worth the time and effort?

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Hi everyone, sorry to bother you. I understand this might have been discussed here before, but I couldnt find any threads about exactly this subject. I hope you're okay with this thread.

Well, I wanted to ask you about the 2 basic options, between internet/virtual dating vs real life, especially during this coronavirus crisis, but also before the coronavirus existed.

Before it existed, I had the option of finding a girlfriend from my workplace, social gatherings / activities, dancing clubs, pubs, drinking establishments and so on. because of coronavirus, I have become unemployed and also dont get to be in much situations where I have a chance to meet young women at my age.

I tried dating sites in the past, but dating apps not so much. There are actually many dating apps available in my country, so I'm curious to find out if they're worth the time and effort.

Basically, here's what I need to know. I need to know, if even if I write really attractive or interesting messages to women on dating apps and sites - what are the chances? Because from my experience, most women just ignore or they fail to respond / read messages because of the huge competition going on.

Would you say my chances are significantly higher if I have good photos, write good things about myself and so on? Or even then, would you say. Finding a girlfriend through these dating apps and sites is a very difficult thing. Regardless of coronavirus - I'm just asking generally. Because Ive heard of people getting married through these things, but its a pretty rare thing and I have no idea how they've done it.

Thank you.

the apps that involve swiping right or clicking "like" waste somewhat less time because you only message with people who are at least somewhat interested in you. Still I wouldn't send a long or overly custom message to open because not everyone will respond.

It’s a good way to meet people if you’re good looking. The closer you are to society’s ideal of what’s considered attractive, the more success you will generally have. If you’re a good looking and fit white guy of at least average height, you’re good to go.

Problems start arising when your looks stray from the ideal. Obese guys, ugly guys, really short guys, or ethnic minorities might struggle with online dating because they’re less likely to get matches or responses from women. You get 3-4 photos plus a short bio to convince a woman to give you a shot so of course it’s going to be mostly about how you look.

Get a professional photographer, preferably one that specifically does photos for dating sites.

No selfies no no no no no no (Unless you’re a professional photographer an dkmnow what you’re doing- but you aren’t and don’t.

For long term dating a lot of people chose OkCupid or hinge but people form long term relationships from any of the apps, even tinder. Get on them all and see what works best.

photoshop makes us all professional photographers but yeah......I can see the difference when you have somebody who understands the science of lighting, mood and shutter speed....

I'm not interested in dating but wouldn't use a dating site even if I was
Online chatting websites to make friends/relationships are typically full of someone who want to take advantage of others

The majority of dating apps require a credit card to obtain full access.

Do you have a credit card that you can use?

Been a while guys.

So here's what happened. I registered on a few dating sites and dating apps, on my smartphone too. Like you stated, most of them required subscription and a payment fee for a premium membership. Without it I cant send messages to other women, so I had to pay for it.

I decided to take the 3 top dating sites and apps, so I have a higher chance of finding someone. I assumed the top 3 sites are probably the ones which have the largest amount of women to speak to, so I gave it a chance. Paid about 35$ for each site, for a 1 month premium membership. After that, I uploaded a few slightly modified photos, the best non-selfie ones I had on my phone and uploaded them to the 3 sites.

Then I started. I messaged mostly women younger than me, as I had a feeling older women wouldnt want to date with someone who's younger than her. This is where things started getting really disappointing guys, so keep reading.

I messaged up to 50 different women on these 3 dating sites, one was an app on my smartphone and the 2 others were normal dating sites. Out of 50, I got only 5 replies after 24 hours (I gave it some time since some might be offline or dont have time to respond immediately). 5 out of 50 was pretty disappointing, but I continued the conversation with most of them.

One disappeared in the middle of the conversation(no idea why), one said in the end she is no longer interested (without explaining why), one left her phone number and told me to send her a text message / whatsapp - but didnt answer since then. And, luckily, one said she was interested but she was looking for someone who was academic or has M.D. (or about to be, in a college). I was shocked.

As it appears to be, these dating apps and sites fail to bring any real, interesting and satisfying results. I'm not just disappointed, I'm also shocked I have messaged to that many women and none of them have arranged a date and most of them didnt even get back with me altogether.

Now with coronavirus spreading as well, its going to be even more difficult than I thought, to find a relationship. I cant believe it. I'm so pissed off and frustrated.

It was worth a try.