building a real life ASD community

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Hello
When considering the common problems that people with ASD have with life.
Has anyone considered moving to a place where there are more people with ASD
which gives more opportunity to people with ASD for socialising / developing freindships
and relationships, as well as employment.

One place that i have read up on is the sweetwater spectrum community, which looks good
for people with ASD, and may the answer for some people with ASD who find it hard to
develop and maintain relationships.

I think that developing and maintaining relationships is a major problem, and i think
i may actually be more successful than many,
however i have found that some of my NT friends kind of put me in a category of
"ASD friend", which means that i get treated as if i am not normal and invited to
events that are for me and one other person with ASD, rather than his normal
social gatherings, this makes me feel more disabled than I am, as being invited
to "disabled" events rather than normal events puts me in the disabled category
rather than being a regular mate.

hard to work out how i feel about this friend
as although he is being considerate, it does feel like i am being discriminated against at the same time.

It sounds nice in theory, but I don't think it would help me. Even here I still have many problems interacting, and that's with the added benefit of being able to type out my responses and having the option of not responding. I also still get overwhelmed by socializing here, and that's without all the extra sensory things that come with in-person interactions.

No I haven't considered it because such a community would consist mostly of males and I distrust men.

Besides places near supportive housing arrangements, I can't even think of any high-autism-concentration places to move to.

Ironically, but not surprisingly, it is my autism that would make me very hesitant in joining a group.

I have always sought out more artistic, "bohemian" neighbourhoods. They value eccentricity, but average better at social skills than Aspies, so I'd expect to have more friends that way.

If such community exists in real life, in places I can physically go...

I'd personally offer my skillsets to any autistics in need -- provided if they're not so shy to ask, than the one being in need of said community.
It's not accomodations I need -- if anything, it's something I even offer instead.

All I want is to be surrounded by equals -- not one's above or below.
It doesn't even had to be all amicable or friendly. Or all resonating.


I'd be the least disabled autistic in a sense I can go to any sorts of spaces, social or non-social.
I have no real need for safe spaces. If anything I wanna test myself to go to unsafe spaces. It's something I strive to attain, growing up.

The only real issue I could have is involving words and wording...
It's in that regard I'm not very confident with. And that's mostly it.

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^^ Of course you get more misogynistic remarks from men. Female sexists practice misandry, and even claim that it does not exist.

An autistic with social anxiety is still a person with social anxiety.
In such case, these types would likely only need a more forgiving and understanding environment.
Which isn't as demanding nor as special as it seems, really, they only need a gentle push if they're willing.

And it's also different from conscious or unconscious associations with whether certain groups of people or people in general, which most humans do.
It's these types of people in need of safe spaces in a strict sense would push for specialized segregation.

But both can inevitably overlap with another.
This is where the confusion goes...
Former would only make the social interaction smoother along those with like minded people but otherwise sought inclusion.
The latter has explicit orders, one that demands specific exclusion.


There's bypassing social anxiety, there's also coping with it and there's overcoming that.

And then there's seeing past through the thoughts and ideas that are commonly associated with social anxiety, and the circumstances that leads to it.


These are just my thoughts mind you, concerning psych-like social factors. It's up to the host if it can be done or not.
I just thought it could help discerning specific needs of every autistics, dealing with social issues of their own.

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