Do You Have People Missread What You Write?

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Why do people assume there are hidden meanings in what I write and jump to the wrong conclusions?

I have had two of the longest partial shutdowns I have ever had recently, so I was not able to work out what had happened and why. I am still a bit in a daze and fragile over it.

If I have upset anyone I apologize. I don't really want to live a life of upsetting people but I have things to do before I leave this place.

But I am tired now. I am awake when I should have been asleep hours ago, as my sleeping patterns are all over the place and I have hardly slept the last few nights. I will be thinking better in the morning. (If I awake by then as time is all over the place...).

If I say anything which upsets you ignore me. Everyone else does! (Can't blame them! )

Happens to me all the time, no matter how much I try to avoid it. Some of us are very literal and mean exactly what we say, while others see hidden meanings in things. It can be hard for me to understand.

Even I misread what I write, let alone someone else.

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Hope you got some rest and are feeling better.

This is unrelated, but I just want to say that I enjoy reading your posts. You sound like a truly kind soul.

Thank you. I try to be. I am not perfect though. I mess up. I don't realize that others can read things that I wrote in totally different ways to how I wrote them. I have a "One track mind". (My Mum says that as I always talk about trains!)
I don't usually put hidden meanings in what I write because I am too open minded. I have to watch I am not too open minded or my brains will fall out!

Happens all the time.

I even got a temp ban off twitter cos of it and run off other sites over it.

NTs like to hide things in what they say and because they're the majority, people assume they're dealing with NTs when they're speaking with strangers. Even on here, it can be tough to go back to thinking 'everyone is autistic, if they were being horrible then they would probably outright say something horrible and be blunt about it'.

But that's what I think we should do - stop looking for hidden meanings on WP comments and, instead, assume everyone is being nice/neutral unless someone outright says something nasty.

People often misread my posts here even though I always write posts in the clearest way possible so that everyone can understand.
But it's not just something that happens on autism forums. It happened on an NT forum one time too. I was writing a post about my mum and my aunt but repeatedly referred to my aunt as "my mum's sister" so that people will know which aunt she is, but in the replies some people seemed to have thought I was talking about my sister, like they completely skipped "mum's" Inbetween the words "my" and "sister". And I never mentioned my own sister in my post.


I read a lot of posts here but if I'm going to post a direct reply to a post I make sure I read the post right first so that I don't give an irrelevant response. I even check the OP's age and gender (if visible) before posting a reply.

I don't know what people derive from my writing, but certain points seem to be impossible to convey, while others are easy.

A lady on another autism website I used to go to years ago lamented that.

How when she posts on non aspie websites folks get offended by her because of "what you laid between the lines".

She said "with me there is no 'between the lines'".



Thats probably a common issue among aspies/autistics. Aspies take things literally themselves, and are not aware how their own text might look to others, and can be oblivious to the fact that they might appear to be blowing dog whistles when they arent, and might not put in disclaimers when other folks would rush in to put disclaimers into what they wrote- because NT others would immediately see the problem and nip it in the bud.

I dont get that in written texts so much. But in face to face conversation I get folks falsely accusing me of lying. One particular coworker was really annoying. We had worked together for years, and its a toss up which is worse: her thinking that I was liar, or her thinking that I would lie for the motives she attributed to me. Like she is projecting herself onto me (both the mendacity and the bad motives). But thats another story.

Although I agree with the previous posts I think there is an issue of people not reading accurately. I have this with letters to the bank. They seem to pick out a keyword or two and guess at what its about making all sorts of assumptions that are not the case. I get very upset when their reply indicates they have not read my letter properly.