Do women have a bigger issue with honesty than men?

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Unfortunately, here on WP, when you click "Edit Profile," the fields you're allowed to change do NOT include "Gender." That's why KT67 is unable to change the gender in his profile.

It's not Facebook that's the problem, it's meeting people. I'm autistic, it's not the medium, it's the message/messenger. Why would it be different on any other platform? To quote Dennis Lee, "People are people wherever you go." But yes, I have tried others with similar results, including Meetup. Even when I've hit it off with certain people, relationships faded over time.

I couldn't possibly have liked her, I knew nothing about her except that she played the guitar, lived not too far from my area, was LGBT and was engaged. That's it. Other than that, I was getting the impression that she'd probably have a problem with me because of my autism and might judge me even more harshly than most. Just call it a hunch.

But you're making a lot of assumptions here as well... first, you're making it seem like my intuiting that she wasn't being honest (not "breaking the rules", which I couldn't care less about anyway since I don't social distance myself) was incorrect when that hasn't been confirmed. We don't know for sure either way. Second, maybe she found my behaviour strange but that doesn't mean I didn't have a perfectly valid reason to not accept her request, especially after I tried to make it clear to her the reasons for my suspicions. I could see why she may find that strange if she was completely innocent of my suspicions; otherwise, that would just be a case of willful ignorance or denial. Third, you're correct that I've only spoken about her but, as I said earlier, that's because it's the most recent incident that prompted me to write about a more general issue I have. I could give other examples but, again, look how long it's taking us just to parse through this one.

No offense but I seriously hope you're not a teacher cuz you'd probably suck at it. I asked you very specific questions about multiple points you called me out on and once again you've refused to answer, instead choosing to reiterate the same thing you said the first time I posed these questions. No worries though, I'm throwing in the towel on this one, I know when I'm beat lol.

Btw, you have a problem with "gender mislabeling" and yet you refer to me as a hen? Not only are you mislabeling my gender, you've mislabeled my species as well. Last time I checked, I wasn't poultry.

So you knew nothing about her but still enough to form the opinion that she probably has a problem with autistic people and I'm making assumptions?


Yeah, we don't know. You're trying to prove she is lying, I'm saying she might be. She also doesn't really seem to have done anything suspicious besides this.


Any reason that you don't want to share your personal info is a valid reason. However, you're waning to meet her in person but hiding who your online friends are, I also find that to be strange behaviour.


Perhaps more clear-cut examples of this would require less discussion, one where it's more obvious the person has lied and you haven't confused the issue by behaving suspiciously yourself. For example, my ex once told me that he'd been lying for ages about giving up smoking because he was too embarassed to admit he couldn't.

My assumptions are based on the fact that most people do have a problem with autists, it's just the way it is. No huge leap there. Once she started alluding to the fact that she was trying to sus me out because of trust issues, I balked since it seemed like she may have had intentions she herself was hiding. And if she has a problem with "sketchy" people, then she most likely wouldn't have been interested in hanging out with me anyway.


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I'm suggesting that I believed her to be lying, not that I had proof. Evidence isn't exactly proof and there may have been reasons to believe certain things but not others. On the whole, I was still suspicious and decided it was best not to continue talking to her.


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My friends list was hidden from everyone, not just her. I'm not the only one who does this and you can search it up if you don't believe me, though I'm not sure why you wouldn't. It's common practice. I don't see the connection between wanting to meet and revealing my friends list and if that's what she was insisting on seeing otherwise she didn't want to meet, then that's suspicious to me. But it's fine, you can believe what you want.

I read your whole OP and you failed to meaningfully connect your belief that she was dishonest with her being a feminist. Only that she was dishonest, and that she was a feminist. One didn't necessarily cause the other.

In my experience women can be just as honest or dishonest as men. I tend to form friendships more easily with women, and so I hang around with them a fair bit. They're just people like anyone else. I think, because women generally have greater emotional intelligence, they may be better at lying, but they are not predisposed to lie by genetics or feminism. In fact, the idea that women are more manipulative than men is quite a sexist stereotype in itself.