I am fed up with their drama

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I have been dealing with a couple of autistic adults who have some serious issues and enjoy creating drama next also being extremely mature.

1. One of them always complains why she can't seem to get services she needs and always seems to take some legal action. She will do this to the point of turning others off. She also finds a way to make it about her.

2. Her friend is also a downer and always wants "Friends," and he gets together with them before going behind their back and complain they are not good enough for them.



I recently got fed up with their drama a few months ago and even told them how I felt. However, all they want to do was blame me for things and twist th e things around. They both snitched on me to their parents, who got involved and told me to leave them alone or take legal action against me.

Though I thought it had died down, the autistic woman had the nerve to contact a good friend of mine and say nasty things about me and make it look like I am this controlling person and a rotten friend.

I am so pissed off at her.

Oh my god, that's horrible. What a couple of a-holes!

This autistic woman still lives with her parents and she is very spoiled. It also sounds like she starts things and them blames other people.

“Look what they did to me.” It is never her fault.

Other people have told me that it is either her way or no way. If she does not get her way, she can be very destructive.

Not sure if you provide services for these women, as in working in the field or whether they are unavoidable in your life, but it’s not uncommon to find some adults on the spectrum with these issues. Some can be highly manipulative, and lack self control, just as NT folk can be. This is where appropriate responding by parents and all others who were role models when these women were younger, could have made a difference to their outcome. Sorry to hear of the stress you’re going through due to their behaviour. It’s not reasonable or mature. The less you’re exposed to them, the better for your own health.

I would stay away from them and when they start on again, if they do, don’t respond except to tell them to not contact you again.

If they do not stop, you can seek legal action.

Nope, I never provided services for either of them. Actually, one of them is a man and the other is a woman. However, they ate immature and co-dependent on their parents.


The woman always seems to play tie victim card.
1. She can’t do this or that because due to this or that related disability related to autism
2. She can never get the accommodations she needs because of some silly reason.
3. Everything is always “The problem is this or that.”
4. Finds a way to make it about her

I tried like to give her some suggestions which she always made excuses for. I also told her to stop complaining only to be told that I am going “The bad guy.”

If you are diabetic, you avoid/cut out sugar.
If you are allergic to animal dander, you avoid all fur-bearing animals.
If you are allergic to any type of food, you do not eat it.
If these people are accurately described, they need to be avoided/cut out of your circle of contacts.
You take care of yourself before anyone else, and if they show intermittent hostility towards you, they are detrimental to you, emotionally.
Drop them.
Do not respond to phone or text communications.
You need them out of your life.
They are toxic.

According to her parents, she is not to start anything more with me. Her parents promised me.

As for my friend, he did not respond to her, rather he shared her message with myself and another friend who runs a autism group.

My second friend, who runs the group called her on the carpet and kicked her out of the group because she is spreading trouble. Evidently this autistic woman could not understand why she was being banned.

Is there some reason that you are not breaking off your relationship with these people?

I don’t believe the categorization of introvert vs. extrovert is what the Desiderata is referring to.
The phrase is ‘loud and aggressive ‘.
The initial post refers to 2 people who deliberately manipulate and use and hurt people, and drag others into drama that they have deliberately created, for attention.
I do not believe that people like that will change, and I hope that they will be avoided.