What does "I'm here for you" mean?

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FWIW I'm someone that people can (and have) called in the middle of the night, but I've never had someone I felt comfortable counting on that much. To be frank, the unfairness of it is pretty trying.

I'm sorry that you've never had anyone that invested much emotional support in you. I haven't had much either, but I guess that has more to do with having mostly men as friends. That is not to say men can't do so.

I wouldn't call anybody in the middle of the night.....even in my worst moments.....it's just not something to be done. You're disturbing someone's sleep.

The story of my life.
I tend to be very cynical these days, for good reason.



They have no impact on me emotionally, these days.

Nietzsche said: "Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger."
In context, I can attest to that.

convincing you of something that isn’t true and the rational part of you believes they did not intend harm to you.
Am quite sure I misread this somehow or misunderstood ?

It must be a weakness but I have taken at least 2 calls in the wee hours , to help get people out of very bad situations , And was fully aware in at least one of those situations , I was the only person that they could call for help.
Due to having better resources than them . And even little miffed to do it was glad to have been able to help both times, Inspite of it causing me most of a nights rest . Not something , I would ever wish to put another person in that position .
Both persons were 2 of my oldest and dearest friends .

You did the right thing.

I think most people who say "I'm here for you" are being sincere. They mean that if you need to talk to them again, they will be there to support you. Unless someone showed me that they couldn't be trusted, or that they were disingenuous, I'd be grateful for their friendship.

I will always have a landline phone, in case someone needs me in the night. I shut off my mobile when I'm sleeping so I won't be woken by texts or spam messages, but the landline is always on for emergencies. As a mother I need to be available 24/7 and especially overnight. If not for my landline I wouldn't have received word that my boy was stabbed in a random act of violence. My mobile was dead and I was turning in for the night at 2 am.

It's important to be there for our friends and family, and to let them know we'll be there whenever we're needed.

Causing me to perseverate trying to figure out the incongruities is something they couldn't reasonably anticipate. THey did me no favor lying to me, but most of the harm has to do with my personality that nobody knows about.

if the person matters to you, then sleep is a minor consideration. just ask billions of parents over the eons.

Unless there are obligations that you've agreed to, as in a marriage. And if you have kids, you have obligations to your kids.

People can also create alternative extended families with mutually agreed-upon mutual obligations, whatever those might be.

Of course. I have obligations to my wife, and to my kids if I have any.

Kids if you have any .... little krafties running about the continent somewhere .

In the NT world it literally means "please only come to me if you are really desperate and have nobody else to turn to and nowhere else to go"

Its about as meaningful as "let's do lunch"

Lol....I meant to say that I don’t have any kids....