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Earthbound_Alien
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15 Mar 2021, 2:59 am

Do you feel pressured by people to be too perfect to the point that you have to end the relationship with them.



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15 Mar 2021, 3:08 am

I used to.
It was really healthy to learn other ways.


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15 Mar 2021, 3:17 am

I'm the perfectionist in most situations.


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15 Mar 2021, 5:40 am

I have felt very pressured to be too perfect for people, but usually it's me that feels like I need to be perfect and I choose to end the relationship as I feel I can't live up to what I think they expect. I find it hard to accurately read peoples expectations of me all the time that way.



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15 Mar 2021, 12:43 pm

Benjamin the Donkey wrote:
I'm the perfectionist in most situations.
Sort of ditto. But I admit I don't think of it in those terms, I think of it more in terms of caring that things are done the correct way.

(My bride might think I'm often a perfectionist...and on the good days she would be thinking it in those terms.) :roll:


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15 Mar 2021, 7:53 pm

There are some people who nitpick every little thing from how much I type to how much I flirt.


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16 Mar 2021, 2:09 am

Double Retired wrote:
Benjamin the Donkey wrote:
I'm the perfectionist in most situations.
Sort of ditto. But I admit I don't think of it in those terms, I think of it more in terms of caring that things are done the correct way.

(My bride might think I'm often a perfectionist...and on the good days she would be thinking it in those terms.) :roll:

That's actually my view, too.


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16 Mar 2021, 2:56 am

Never felt the need to be perfect



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16 Mar 2021, 3:25 pm


I wrote a poem about my experience with perfectionism

My point in life is to master every skill.
Seeking perfection at every section.
The more i seek the more i realize that its out of reach.
To flawed to reach the perfection i seek.

Never satisfied no matter how hard i try.
Always another goal towards which i stroll.
The effort takes its toll on my very soul.
Always can be better, always can be greater.

After Mastery the next subject is a certainty
An Unending quest, never shall i rest.
Trying to escape the flaws I cannot erase.
No matter the feat it’ll be a defeat.

Cant accept my flaws, regardless of the costs
The cost is great, but i don’t hesitate.
Perfectionism a trait, which is innate.
Never will that change, as long as I remain.


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17 Mar 2021, 5:10 am

i've always been pushed to be something that i'm not by my mother. now i don't feel love for her...i guess that she got what was coming to her. my health is more important than anything, and i have to take care of myself.