Stranger slagging off autism

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I wonder if this is how my family and friends talk behind my back...

Someone I was at the park nearby was talking to her friends.

She said "well my daughter simply couldn't stay with her boyfriend and his family. They all seemed like they were on the spectrum!"

She didn't give a crap who heard her talking like that.

Went onto insult the bf for not thinking to give her flowers. Actually text him to tell him to. Flowers cost a fortune.

Rude cow.

I find these anti autistic types tend to be some of the stupidest, most normy norm NTs out there in comparison to smarter more interesting NTs like my mother.

Nothing better to do than slag off autistic people during autism acceptance month

My boyfriend is neurotypical but he has never just sent me flowers, only on valentine's day or my birthday (but not every year). I don't get all upset about it though. I know that he loves me.

But I suppose if someone is autistic then they are basically expected to be perfect otherwise the NTs will just shame them instead of understanding that nobody's perfect.

Not even to the girlfriend. To the mum.

Swear the only reason why I would think of that is because I'm autistic with an autistic specialist interest in old fashioned etiquette.

My cousin's fiance hasn't bought my cousin's mum flowers yet and he's really close to common law husband (they had a common law marriage between themselves...)

I wish we could go back to written books on etiquette which everyone agrees with rather than this idea that autistic people need to be perfect and everyone else just muddle along knowing it instinctively instead of it being written down.

I hate people using 'on the spectrum' as an insult. Heck I don't even know if BF and BF's family were autistic or if she was just insulting people for being nerdier/more introverted than her...

So ironically you might pass the test because you read a book with rules most people couldn't imagine.

Pretty sure her understanding of social norms are all that's off. Perhaps she's projecting and doesn't even know it.

Yep.

I mean some of it is classist or sexist or whatever. I wouldn't assume a woman wants me to be with her every time I'm in a theatre just cos the Victorian books said so. Or that my equivalent of a 'maid' (cleaner) should be ignored rather than spoken to.

But some of it is very good advice which isn't considered these days.

And pretty aspie friendly.

I wish I could state when I'm 'at home' to my friends and have it be a different time to when I'm actually at home. I don't feel like having company before lunch but I have no say in it without being either rude or asleep or in the bath or out.

I still write thank you texts when I have guests over after an invitation. But I don't write letters to them with this because that is a lot of effort when the post is as slow as in the 21st century.

That Ho' Really Don't Care For Him , Mouthing Him For a Lack of Flowers . Entitled Biatch

I bet she's one of those for whom the whole world isn't good enough for their kid.

I know cos mum's like that

Usually happens with mothers of sons but sometimes daughters too. They don't accept anyone is good enough for their little boy/girl even though their 'little' boy/girl is 20+

I was reading this archived article from a few years ago which was written by an autism mom for the New York Times last week. It was basically about having her twin children take care of their autistic brother. That said, she not only said negative things about her son but she openly admitted to segregating him from his siblings when their friends were over. Why? Because he was the scary autistic brother who was once again "Abusive" to other people. Therefore, his siblings want nothing to do with him.

I'm autistic and I can't tolerate flower bouquets because of sensory reasons. My gay ex sends me roses every year on my birthday and Valentine's Day and I have to throw them out every time because I get migraines. I've told him, and told him that it makes me feel guilty, but he keeps sending them thinking it's a cultural norm.

I wish people would stop thinking flowers are some sort of romantic gesture that everyone loves. I'd much rather receive a book or a pizza than a bunch of dying flowers which will make me sick, and the scent also reminds me of funerals.

As for their comment, yes it's rude but the autistic family is better off without that silly tart.