The 6 Ft Tall White Guy Syndrome

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Statistics only tell you about groups - they can never tell you anything about an individual.

Go to the library or Amazon or ebay and get a copy of "Dating for Dummies" and "Flirting for Dummies" if you read both books and find nothing useful you are not really any worse off. You have at least confirmed that you know the basics. If you find something helpful you are on the road to self-improvement.

I used to think I was ugly and that was why I didn't have any luck with dating. Then I realized something. I had a brother. He and I looked so much alike people who knew him well (like his co-workers at the college book store) sometimes mistook me for him. So - since he frequently dated - I had eventually to decide that it must be "something else".

Where to meet people after college: I met my wife through mutual friends. We took "back to school" classes in dancing at a local High School (they had a bunch of these classes like "Star Gazing" and "Basic Painting" - we took Ball Room Dancing and Latin Dancing . . . a bunch of them - we also signed up for classes at a dance studio near the supermarket.

Swing dancing was also popular at the time - we would sometimes go to a "Swing Dance" with friends - it was fun.
Dancing is a good thing for someone like me with awkward social skills - a lot of the rules are very explicitly stated - so are the times of the dances. A lot of the guess work was taken out. Some kinds of dances are especially designed for meeting people. When I was in college I did a lot of "Contra Dancing" which my roommate roped me into. It is a bit like Square Dancing or English Country Dancing. If you do it properly you have danced with every girl in the room by the end of the night. If you like to work out - it might be for you. Very Physical. My room mate actually met his girlfriend at one of these dances. My cousin married a girl he met this way.

Taking night classes and going to dances are two ways to meet people without going to bars or big noisy parties.

Here is another trick - every time you meet someone who is married - ask them how many years - then ask "how did you meet?". You can learn a lot from just talking to people. Pay special attention to the people married the longest.

I am white, more than 6ft tall, people even say I am good looking and did not see any advantage in that. I miss other qualities women (statistically) like. Rich, funny, good family... So what? I have special interests that are not considered to be interesting. I do not like to talk a lot... (how boring...) Nevertheless, I am married and lucky. I know others that have three dates a week and they are unlucky.

My hint: Forget all that stuff you read on Tinder and Facebook. Go to real life! A "6 Ft Tall White Guy Syndrome" exists only in stupid TV serials.