nick007 wrote:
idntonkw wrote:
The reason the guys said that, was because you were strange and not popular, and the guys were using you as a prop to make themselves look more dominant, which attracts NT women in such groups. I had this done to me by NT guys as well. When the NT guys were teasing and putting me down this way publicly, the girls weren't into me, but before and in other situations, the girls showed attraction to me. So don't worry, it's not so much you, but just these NT guys looking for anybody to use as a prop to make themselves look bad and dominant to the girls, which happens to sexually excite NT girls, they can't help it.
I was thinking it might could be something like that but I didn't want to bring it up cuz I don't know for sure if that was what was going on(I s#ck with understanding social hierarchy) & if I was in James shoes I would feel worse knowing that a friend used me like that. Plus there's been LOTS of controversy on this forum over the years whenever somebody implies that some women are attracted to dominate jerks & I do not have the penitence or energy to get caught up in those sh!t-storms these days. I'm trying to learn to pick my battles so to speak.
Well, autistic women may not be, and even NT women may not be ready to admit that they get turned on by men doing bad and humiliating things to other men whom they find less attractive as a result, but I have been around NT women and have seen the phenomenon first hand many times, it is also seen in Bollywood movies where the main sexy character bullies his own weaker/chubbier/unattractive male friends and the women just take is a natural thing between a popular man and unpopular one.. i've seen dumb men do it to their friends, but socially aware men will not do it to their friends, but rather form a group where they all support each other up, but some guys who seemed nice also did this which shows their low character but maybe more so their lack of appreciation for the weak guy they are putting down in front of the girls, in fact, it's as old as history itself, maybe the friends actually meant to tease the guy in order to actually bring his value up by bringing attention to him and sexualize him, not sure, they might not be the worst friends especially if the oddness of the guy in question is so obvious that they might as well admit it publically