Most men here cant get women because they lack confidence

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I can't pretend to know how hard that is to overcome, but it should at least be an aspirational goal. Confidence comes with bravery and the more times you try, the better you become.

But according to psychologists empathy can be trained. I think this is linked to social contacts in that the more effort you make to pay attention to people's feelings the more you understand them. But of course attention takes effort and concentration which competes with other things going on in the brain.

For getting social contact you are required to have social contacts before? Great advice! Especially for people who are unable to do even eye contact when talking to others and don't realize nonverbal signals nor have even a real idea of the way that the mind of women or NTs at all who usually care that stuff works.
If people are shy at making contacts it's even worse.

Emotional empathy can't be trained.

I'm sorry but this is my observation with a lot of the Aspie men I know here, they want a woman but their lack of confidence, desperation and need for a women oozes out so conspicuously they dont realize that they're only repelling any prospective partners the more they get desperate for a partner.

Look most people want a partner. But most people arent so desperate that they base their worth on whether they can find a partner or not, nor is it something that can consume them. BTW this thread is a generic thread not singling out anyone in particular, so if you read this thread and think im aiming it at someone please dont do that. This thread applies to many men, but especially the Aspie men who cant find partners, and thus Im making this thread for a lot of people.

Women want someone confidence, someone with spine, autonomy, and a sense of independent self worth which is lacking in people who wanting a partner goes from a want to a need. The moment someone'e entire self worth, existence and self validation becomes contingent on if another women likes them is ironically the moment they forever preempt said woman from loving them.

Top tier men, men who are alpha or even men who arent that high level but decently desirable, there's more on their plate than getting a woman. They have something about them that defines them that makes women want to find them, almost as if even if a woman doesnt accept them they have enough for themselves to survive but if a woman does love them its a bonus.

Thats what separates a want from a need. Wanting women isn't the same thing as needing a woman. Understand that difference and many of the men here who struggle with women while find themselves a lot more desirable and attractive.

And I want to emphasize again this thread is a general thread for men in general, not any member or members, heck not even Aspie men because many men struggle with this. They make finding a partner a goal that consumes them where it takes away from the autonomy and other qualities that would even make a woman want to find them. The moment men just develop themselves, build their own skills, become great people outside of a woman, then maybe more women will want to be in their lives. No one wants to be part of a boring or dull life. People want to join lives that already have something to offer.

I have read some variation on this straight-single-guy-dating-advice a hundred times at least and seen the terms "alpha / beta" male a thousand times, the modern culture seems obsessed by it, in reality these terms come from zoology and were used to describe ape males -and- females. If a woman is ape-like she will go for the alpha...

Better yet, I'd rather be a pea. Male and female peas are very similar and they're the same size.

I have read some variation on this straight-single-guy-dating-advice a hundred times at least and seen the terms "alpha / beta" male a thousand times, the modern culture seems obsessed by it, in reality these terms come from zoology and were used to describe ape males -and- females. If a woman is ape-like she will go for the alpha. If she is more akin to Homo Sapiens, she will have an independent view. You could respond that most women are ape-like. That is a possibility. However, I see plenty of what you refer to as "betas" that do just fine, and their partners seem contented with them.

Apparently a beta is a man that will not murder, rape and do whatever else is necessary to dominate in any situation. An alpha on the other hand is like the S.S. Stormtrooper or Pres. Trump. Just do whatever in order to win at whatever the competition might be. So the popular argument is that the S.S. gets laid, and the peaceful intellectual goes to his grave lonely and sad.

I'm confused that the term Alpha is being applied to ape males & to evil humans. Evil humans being compared to apes is extremely contradictory to me. Apes do NOT go to war with all other animals who are not apes & apes do NOT kill & do bad for pleasure. Evil humans are much more like mosquitoes, leeches, piranhas, locust, & venomous snakes than they are to apes. I really wish more humans were ape like cuz the world would be a much nicer place & a lot more straightforward.

Chimps go to war.
Chimps kill for pleasure.

Chimps go to war.
Chimps kill for pleasure.

Chimps are the only known animal apart from humans who like humping and masturbating for pleasure as well (not for reproduction).

That's wrong. There are many more mammals like this. Dogs, dolphins, hyenas ...
No animal has reproduction in mind if doing so. So it's always for pleasure only.